Is Impatience Your Problem? –

Patience can be developed with practice. 

As a recovering addict, patience has not been one of my strong points.  Sure I had patience (most of the time) with my daughter as a single mom BUT not when it came to other things it was non-existant.

What about you?  Is there a goal or desire are you rushing toward? What is the one thing in your life you just can’t wait to see happen?  I’m usually an “instant gratification” person but I’m working on changing which takes time (and patience).  Are you getting the vicious circle?  LOL.  It is usually the thing we want the most which take the longest like the struggle to reach your goal weight.

And while we’re waiting for things to happen, we are usually tempted to make things happen — we want the magic wand for things to happen NOW!  In most cases, the solution we find to the problem or desire is not a perfect fit and as a result we muck things up.  We get a SMACK to remind us it is time to practice patience!

The truth is a lack of patience is often a sign of fear and those inner gremlins called fear are waiting to squash your  goals and desires.  We want what we want now!  I know I am not alone, right?   We get anxious and worried then begin pushing for things to happen before their time (remember it is His time, not ours).  We need to learn to slow down.  We need to trust.  We need to breathe. Patience is an act of faith, even when we don’t know when or how things will work out.

Here are four key areas of your life where you may need to practice more patience…

Relationships

Are you short-tempered with people? Does waiting in line at the store irritate you?  Do you get impatient with someone who is trying to do something especially when they don’t live up to your expectations?  Are you scared your dream relationship will never happen?  If you are single, have you pushed a relationship to be “serious” when it may not have been meant to be.  Why?  Because you fear someone special won’t come along, or maybe you think you’re getting too old to get married, or your choices are limited so you are tempted to marry the wrong person.   Love happens when you least expect.  I was one of those who always rushed a relationship.  It was when I made the decision to let things happen it did.  In fact, I told hubby I didn’t want a relationship.  Here we are almost 16 years later and still together.  Don’t rush into things.  Be patient. Trust. I am a definite believer of when you relax about things, the door to love (and other things) will open. Are you willing to wait?

Work

Patience was a lot tougher when I worked in an office. I found my lack of patience sabotaged my relationships with coworkers and clients who came into the office.  Now with my own business, on days I have no patience, my relationships with my customers are in jeopardy.  I was a job-hopper for many years because I thought it was the way to advance in my career.  Then in recovery, I learned some patience and VIOLA things changed.  I worked for 9 years at the Aids Alliance before moving into a consultant position. Then I was with Bethel for about 7 years – both of these long term positions allowed me to put my skills to use.  Is your job hopping depriving you of the chance to let you sparkle?

Finances

The lack of patience and the need for instant gratification leads to consumer debt.  For those, with no patience, we also tend to have a sense of entitlement because we think we deserve things even if we can’t afford them.  The result is we rack up credit card debt instead of saving for things we really want.    Yup, I have been guilty of this which is another part of my addictive personality. We often play the comparison game too.  We want to be like everyone else but never realize we are probably comparing their end to our beginning or middle.  When you have a little patience in fulfilling material desires, you might be able rein in your spending.

Health

If there is one thing which takes patience and perseverance, it’s eating healthy and exercising. It took me 7 years to reach my goal weight and it takes LOTS of perseverance to maintain it.  I lost and gained the same weight many times because I wanted the quick fix.  It wasn’t until I joined Weight Watchers where I learned patience.  The results were slow and steady and before long the changes were noticeable!   Are you looking for shortcuts to good health? There aren’t any. Make a commitment to start making one change on at a time and you’ll build up good habits which lead to good health and better looks.

This week I challenge you to practice patience in an area of your life where you are struggling.  What are you afraid will happen if you are patient instead of racing to the goal line?  Practice patience. Good things do come to those who wait.

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!

Get Creative™ with Thirty-One

“Calling all sewists, scrapbookers, crocheters, quilters and crafters: This Carry-All is for you! Whether you’ve got an ongoing junk journaling project you’re trying to keep organized, working on the piecing portion of a patchwork blanket, making a sweater for your kiddo or just need a place to contain your paints and brushes, you’ll love the vastness of its main compartment, the stay-open wire frame and its outer pockets. This bag is a next-level helper for the busy DIY-er!”

“Are you an illustrator, painter, planner-buff or paper crafter? Then you’ll love this case! The shape is the perfect storage option for supplies, and the case’s transformability means it works not only as a container, but also as a clean workspace for mobile crafting!”

“It’s perfect for the general crafter, jewelry maker and multi-crafter. It has loads of compartments for tools and supplies, zippered see-through pockets for easy access to notions and findings and a roomy main section that can easily hold paints, adhesive bottles or additional pouches. A great grab-and-go option for your next maker meet-up!

Here are some great compliments to your caddy:

  • The Creative Slim Pouch was created with longer tools in mind. It’s a great solution for keeping pens, colored pencils, small paintbrushes, crochet hooks and double-pointed knitting needles at bay within a larger tote. Its clear body married with a zipper closure means no digging around or losing supplies!”
  • The Get Creative™ Rectangle Pouch will hole scissors, pin tins, embroidery floss, paint bottles and tubes, ephemera and markers. If you only buy one pouch, then this should be the one for its generous size and versatility.”
  • The Get Creative™ Sleeve is designed with the paper crafter in mind. Whether it’s linen paper, organizer inserts, book-making sheets, or scrapbooking paper elements, the Get Creative™ Sleeve will act as a protector. It’s also a great option for people who knit, crochet and cross-stitch so they can keep patterns clean and safe!”
  • The Get Creative™ Cylinder is vertical storage for a plethora of supplies. They work well for markers, paint bottles, fat quarter fabric rolls and stacks of thread spools. The added feature of a small opening to feed yarn through, also makes this pouch perfect for anyone who knits or crochets on the go. No rogue balls of wool with the Cylinder!

When you are a host (or have $200 in sales), you can grab the Hostess Exclusive Get Creative™ Crate...

It is like a mini-craft room in a box! Grab several to organize and stack different types of supplies or one to contain all of your tools (don’t forget to label them with embroidered personalization!). The Crate works on its own or stuffed with everything from the pouch line!”

Look for all of these items from our Get Creative™ line, and be sure to catch Vickie in “The Knit Show with Vickie Howell” YouTube series and on her Craft*ish podcast.

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!

Tasty Tuesday: Wicked Good Chicken Burgers

Today’s recipe is courtesy of Wicked Good Spice Mixes.  I met these amazing ladies at the Brick Farmer’s Market.  I found them last year BUT I have been using the heck out of their products this year.  I hit them every Saturday to make sure I have enough of the Peach and Wild Berry Infused Balsamic Vinegars.  I was a total salad dressing girl until I started using these with their organic olive oil.  Now, I’m hooked.  So check out these recipe….
Ingredients:
2 lbs of Lean Ground Chicken Breast or Ground Turkey
1 small jalapeno peppers , seeds removed, diced
5 cloves of garlic, finely diced
2 medium onions diced
1 10oz package of frozen spinach, thawed and squeezed to remove moisture
1 tablespoon of Garlic Explosion ( More if you love garlic as much as I do!)
1 teaspoon of salt and 1/2 teaspoon of black pepper
2 tablespoons of olive oil
Directions:
  • In a large skillet, heat olive oil and saute garlic and onions until caramelized and soft.
  • In a large bowl, mix chicken breast, jalapeno peppers, salt and pepper,garlic and onion mixture and Achilles heel Blend and Garlic explosion blend and spinach
  • Form mixture into 8 large burgers or 12 smaller burgers.
  • Heat a griddle pan and cook burgers  for about 4 minutes and turn.  Burgers should be nicely browned and check to make sure they reach an internal temperature of 170 degrees.
Serve with roasted veggies or salad and ENJOY!

Want to know more about Wicked Good Spice Mix Co?  Here is what they have to say on their website:  The main reason we started this company was to show people how easy, healthy and fun it can be to make a delicious meal at home!  I always think the hardest thing about cooking is how much of this spice and how much of that spice you should add.

So go ahead and throw all of those spices you use infrequently and start using our spice blends! They are fresh and economical!  Our blends are perfectly formulated to use for just about everything you like to cook.  Recently we have added fruit infused balsamic vinegars and olive oils to our collection.
Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!

Stepping Out in Faith

Thank you Mary Southerland for today’s message.

Have you ever wanted to “freeze” a moment and make it last a lifetime? I have. I have also lived through certain moments that I wish I could change or even delete and pretend they never happened. But change is a natural part of life. We can embrace it, or we can fight it.

My husband often says that the only people who really like change are wet babies. However, I have discovered that some people thrive and live for change to the point that they are “change junkies” and have little stability. Others dig in their heels and refuse to change a thing and ultimately become prisoners of old habits – both good and bad. When it comes to change, we have a decision to make. Change is a sign of growth and life and is sometimes needed simply to survive.

God may be asking you to step out in faith and make a change in your life. He has already been where He is asking you to go and prepared every step of the way for you. You don’t have to be afraid of the unknown. It is unknown only to you.

God is well aware of where you are and of every step He is asking you to take. He may be asking you to get rid of old memories, eliminate destructive habits, or forsake lifeless traditions. He is waiting for you to take one step.

Faith in God does not come all at once. Faith is a step-by-step process that begins with one small step and increases as we go. An Old Testament story found in Joshua 3 illustrates this truth.

The Israelites are camped on the bank of the Jordan River. Forty years earlier, they had escaped from Egypt and have been wandering around in the wilderness ever since. All of their needs have been met by God. They have seen miracle after miracle and now they can see Canaan, the Promised Land. However, there is a problem.

A huge river stands between the Israelites and the Promised Land, and there is no way around it. God told His people that He would make a dry path through the river, but the priests had never seen that happen. In fact, they hadn’t even been born when the Red Sea was parted and there were no reruns of the Ten Commandments at the local Wilderness Theatre. The Israelites had spent their entire adult lives in the wilderness and finally, they could see a way out. Oh, and one more problem — the priests couldn’t swim. This was probably the first river they had even been close to in their lives. I can imagine their fear and questions. God was asking them to step out in faith as never before.

I don’t imagine the Israelites had a great deal of faith in God at that moment, but they had just enough faith to take that first step. And that was enough.

During harvest the Jordan overflows its banks. When the priests carrying the Ark came to the edge of the river and stepped into the water, the water upstream stopped flowing. It stood up in a heap. So the people crossed over.

Notice that God did nothing until those toes touched the water. That first step was all God needed to see. Many times, we won’t take the first step of change because we’re afraid we won’t be able to make the whole journey.

Don’t wait until you believe it all.
Don’t wait until you can see it all.
Don’t wait until you understand it all.

Trust God and step out in faith. He will meet you there.

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!

How To Have a Productive Day

We’ve all been there. Days you don’t want to tackle the “To Do” list, right?   I used to think it was easier when I was working full-time and juggling my DS business on nights and weekends.  I knew I only had a limited about of time to be productive before I crashed for the night.  I was focused and had a plan.

Now I work from home full time and hubby works the swing shift.  It is easy to blow off at least part of the day till he goes to work, hanging out and ignoring my business completely.  I have learned (the hard way)  I won’t achieve my goals this way.  When I worked at home as a grant writer, it was easier because there were deadlines.  Belinda went to school, I worked.  Of course some would say I always worked.  I had lots of deadlines and a passion in my soul to make a difference.  Now to use some of those same tricks in my DS business at home.

Having health issues and working at home full time, some days I need an extra little push in the right direction to get me going.  What about you?  Maybe you are crazy busy and you want to learn how to be more productive so you can get back on track with your goals.  Here are some tips which might help you….

#1 – Figure out the feelings.

I’m great at stuffing them so this one is sometimes tough for me.  Are you feeling burnt out? Are you dreading one (or more!) of the tasks on your To Do list? Do you lack inspiration?  Do you over analyze everything so you suffer from “Analysis Paralysis?”.  The truth is by figuring out why you are feeling the way you are,  you can acknowledge it and then work to solve it.  Change up the routine.  Have an impromptu dance party in the living room to get the juices flowing.

#2 Accomplish Something – ANYTHING – First Thing In The Morning

I’m usually up and in my office for by 7AM.  I have a checklist of daily things I have to get done a a bare minimum.  This gets the ball rolling for me. For you,  it can be a simple task like cleaning up the kitchen while enjoying your morning coffee.  On rough days, making the bed is my one accomplishment.  Pick one thing each morning and accomplish it.  Once you are done, spend a moment enjoying how it feels to have completed the task.

#3 Adjust your Morning Routine

Start your morning off on the right foot so you have a productive mindset.  Be sure you eat something healthy with some protein in it to start your day off right.   I’m not a big breakfast person but grabbing a hard boiled egg with my coffee helps.  While you’re enjoying a healthy breakfast option, start writing down your priority list. For me, I take the top 3 things I need to do and get them done!  You may want to start with the easiest task and work up to the more difficult ones.  When you use preparing a to-do list based on priority levels as part of your morning routine, you’ll naturally start to have a more productive day.

#4 Allow Breaks during the Day

I’m learning when I take breaks during the day, I am more productive.  It’s okay to take breaks throughout your day, especially if you have a heavy workload.  Breaks like 15 – 30 minutes not 2 – 3 hours.  Once you finish a task, reward yourself.  Take a break. Grab a snack.  Put on some music and dance around.  By giving yourself rewards (breaks) when a task is completed you will maintain your confidence and motivation. It’s great to take a break in between tasks because it helps transition your mind from one priority item to another.  Just because you work from home doesn’t mean you shouldn’t have a regular lunch break each day.  Get away from the office.  Clear your head.  You will be amazed at how much you get accomplished.

#5 Manage Your Distractions

There are LOTS of distractions when we work from home BUT the biggest distraction is social media.   The “just want to check one thing” on Facebook, Pinterest or Instagram then it is 3 hours later and nothing has gotten done.  I’ve even used the excuse of “I’m working on my business”!  I need to remind myself, if I was working for someone else, I wouldn’t be able to take personal calls or texts, so why do I do it during my business hours?  Schedule your social media time so you can still maintain your online presence without having to be logged in at all times.

It is possible to have a more productive day – every day.  When you practice these tips, you will create habits which will lead to success!  What is your best tip for having a productive day?

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!