It’s Friday! The FIRST official weekend of the summer, right? The kids are out of school. You have already heard “I’m bored” more times then you can count. You are trying to figure out how to balance (or juggle) your business, personal commitments and enjoying life while the kids are home for the summer.
Who said that having your own business was less stress? Did you think that once you made the decision to be a Work at Home Mom that the “work stress” would just magically disappear? Are you wondering at times, why did I leave my JOB for this?
The problem is not your business – the problem is YOU! You have let yourself fall into the trap of being indispensable. It is time for a CHANGE! You need to decide that you will have a balanced life; not just wish or want it. Take a moment and visualize what that would look like.
Imagine working your business for a few hours every day. Imagine that once the work is done, you spend uninterrupted time with family. Imagine that you are NOT constantly checking your email or Facebook accounts. Imagine that you turn OFF your phone for just a few hours every day for uninterrupted family time or self-care. How does that sound? Like Heaven, right?
Isn’t it strange the double standards that we use when we talk about the digital world. How many times have you yelled at the kids to put their cell phones away during dinner? How many times do you go out to dinner and banish the digital world so you can talk to each other? Where did our kids learn this? Believe it or not, they are just following in your footsteps. Think about how many times you answer the phone or check email/ Facebook when you are out with the kids. The “this will only take a minute” turns into hours or you “hushing” them so you can talk.
I speak from experience. I was a single mom with my own business – guilty on all counts. At 27, my daughter will tell you “mom was always working”. The first time she remembers me turning off my cell and NOT answering it was our first cruise. I was at every team practice and every game/ competition. I was the mom who shuttled kids around for busy “working moms”. BUT I seldom turned off the digital devices and I was definitely a multi-tasking woman. Proud of and willing to boast that I was a GREAT multi-tasker. The truth was that I was a stressed momma who longed for balance.
Believe it or not, the BEST way to lead a balanced life is committing to SELF-CARE! I know you are saying, when do I have time, right?
Ask yourself this, Are you taking care of yourself so that YOU will be a better employee for YOU?! If you are like me, YOU are always on the bottom of the list. The truth is the better I take care of myself, the more motivated I am and the more effective I am when working. As a result, I can be present with my family. Making sure that time for you is on the to-do list will definitely help with getting and keeping some balance in your life.
Women are the core of the family; we cannot fully give to our family and our business if we do not take proper care of ourselves.
You need an action plan. I am sure you have heard “If you always do what you’ve always done, you’ll always get what you’ve always got.” It is time to find some new skills to put into action and make a commitment to change so that you can reach your goal of having a balanced life.
I challenge you to do some self-care today and then CELEBRATE it! What will you do?
Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!