We are addicted to our thoughts. We cannot change anything if we cannot change our thinking.
I came across this quote in a recent blog and it made me think… I know scary thought, right? The article went on to describe “9 Addictions that 90% of Us Struggle With“. Being a recovering addict for 25 years, I was intrigued to see how my addictive ways have transformed into other (non-obvious) areas of my life.
Almost every one of us is an addict, and what we are addicted to is… Here are a few that resonated with me, what about you?
1. Comparing ourselves to everyone else, and then competing with them.
Let go of the foolish need to compare yourself to everyone else, and you’ll free yourself to accomplish what matters most to you. Sometimes you have to remind yourself that you don’t have to always be and do what everyone else is being and doing.
Instead of competing with others, compete with a previous version of yourself, this way you will become better. It’s as simple as that. You are not in competition with anybody except yourself; plan to outdo your past not other people.
Incredible personal growth and learning occurs through relationships when the competitive spirit is replaced with a collaborative one.
2. Secretly wishing for everyone’s stamp of approval.
You don’t need anyone’s affection or approval in order to be good enough in your own eyes.When someone rejects or abandons or judges you, 99% of the time it isn’t actually about you. It’s about them and their own insecurities, limitations, and needs, and you don’t have to internalize any of it.
Your worth isn’t contingent upon other people’s acceptance of you – it’s something inherent. You are alive, and therefore you matter. You’re allowed to think things and feel things. You’re allowed to assert your needs and take up space. You’re allowed to hold on to the truth that who you are is worthy. And you’re allowed to remove anyone from your life who insists on making you feel otherwise.
3. Being more loving to others than we are to ourselves.
Life gets a lot easier when you are your own best friend. I LOVE this line! There’s absolutely nothing selfish about self-care. If you don’t take good care of yourself then you can’t take good care of anyone else. Because we can’t give what we don’t have. Treat yourself right and you’ll be life-giving to others.
4. Believing we don’t have enough to give back.
You don’t have it all, but you have more than enough. Don’t be scared to share.
Generosity isn’t just to help others, it’s also to liberate you. Which is why you cannot live abundantly until you have done something nice for someone who can never repay you. Know this and live graciously. There is no exercise better for your heart and mind than reaching down and lifting people up.
5. Dreaming of what could have been, or should have been.
Before you can truly LIVE today, a part of you has to die first. You have to let go and bury what could have been, how you should have responded and what you wish you would have done differently. You can’t change a past experience, opinions of others at that moment in time, or outcomes from their choices or yours.
Go ahead! Let go. Forgive. Be present and free. Today.
If you are struggling with any of these things, you are not along! Many of us are right there with you, working hard to feel better, think more clearly and leave a life free of addiction. The bottom line is that it’s never too late to take a step in the right direction. It’s never too late to break free and become the person you are capable of being. Addictions of all kinds CAN be beaten!
Thank you Marc & Angel for this great insight. Share with us what you struggle with and remember that you are never alone!
Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!