Happy Friday! Yes, it is a strange topic for a Friday but before the hectic fall season gets into full swing, I wanted us to take make sure we are honor our relationship with our spouse.
It is easy to love on your spouse when things are going well, right? Snuggling on the coach, enjoying quiet moments, dinner together and lots of conversations. But when the going gets tough, we need to learn to dig a little deeper in order to love more intentionally. I mean who has time to love on your spouse as you are playing mom taxi, cooking dinner, working, running errands, struggling with health issues and juggling a million balls in the air during the school year? It is during these times that we need to dig deep to make sure that we love on them. Thank you Club31Women for these tips:
1. Be patient with him.
Okay, so this is not always easy for me but I am working on it. No matter what drives you crazy about him, or what struggles he’s facing, be patient with him. Take a breath, and pray for patience. Love is patient and by showing patience, you are showing love.
2. Be kind to him.
Sometimes, we think we are being kind but our tone or that snarky look on our face says otherwise. It is during these times, out kind gesture turns into unkindness. Kindness is a cornerstone of love. Being locked into a committed relationship does not give us license to be mean. When you’re having a tough day, dig deep and be kind anyway.
3. Be honest with him.
There’s a time to share honest communication and a time to wait. In the heat of a moment may not be the best time to be honest. When sharing concerns, be honest about them, but do it in a kind manner. Honest communication is crucial for a marriage to thrive and grow. Hiding things from your husband will only shake or break the trust in your marriage.
4. Protect him.
I am learning to do this – not physically but in my conversations. Sometimes our off-handed remarks are mistaken by others leaving the door open to attack or speak down about our spouse. Protect his character and integrity. Always speak well of him to others. If you need help with struggles, do it privately with someone who can be trusted.
5. Trust him.
This can be tricky, if you have experienced situations in your relationship where trust has been broken – it takes time to build it up again. Forgiveness can help us begin or continue to build trust. Also, trust him to make decisions for your family!
6. Hope for your marriage.
All marriages struggle at some point or another. Some struggles are larger than others, but most can heal and be made whole again. There is always hope even when we hit rock bottom. God designed marriage to be for life. Always seek Him for counsel through His Word.
7. Persevere for him.
All husbands make mistakes and have struggles. As his wife, we ought to be his biggest support and helper. Let’s be honest, we all make mistakes. Love perseveres, and love covers a multitude of sins. No matter what*, you’re always fighting for love.
Every day we have an opportunity to show practical love to our spouse. When the stress comes and struggles get real, take a moment to remember the reasons you fell in love with him so many years ago.
Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!