My weightless journey has been a journey. Actually more like a roller coaster. Last week at our meeting we talked about valuing ourself no matter what the scale says. This was like a SMACK in the head for me.
The numbers on the scale have always played a factor in how I feel about me. No, let me be honest, when I was at my heaviest I didn’t get on a scale. I had no clue how much I weighed and being clueless seemed to be okay with me. I liked myself as I hid behind the weight not letting anyone get too close. Does this story sound familiar?
I walked into the doors of Weight Watchers seeing myself through different eyes. The eyes of the scale. It didn’t get really hard until I got closer to my goal weight. As the number got lower, the insecurities of my youth came out. No, I didn’t head to the nearest shrink to bare my soul – I began fighting the inner gremlins with some help of some really good people. I learned to start seeing myself as others see me.
I know what does all of this have to do with anything, right? How many of us let the number on the scale define us especially when we are on a weightless journey? We let our self-worth be connected to the number on the scale. When it goes down, we are happy. When it goes up, the inner gremlins join us in beating ourselves up. It is time to stop the madness.
Recognizing and appreciating ourselves for our many gifts and talents is not an easy task. The reality is when we feel good about ourselves, we are more likely to have a positive outlook on life, take better care of ourselves and the end result is we lose weight. The better we feel about ourselves, the easier it is to lose weight. Think about your own journey….
I remember doing a VERY scary exercise when I began trying to squash my inner gremlins. I was told to ask 5 friends and/or family what they thought my best qualities were. In other words, how would they describe me? YIKES! I sent the message out and was definitely not ready for the responses I received. I was told I was kind, generous, compassionate, determined, helpful and strong. I didn’t see myself from their perspective. But on my worst days (seems to be quite a few lately), I go back to the list and repeat the positive traits over and over again. Why? So I can feel and believe them again.
What can you do to see yourself through loving eyes? No, I am not suggesting you reach out to family and friends to ask for their input (unless you want); I am suggesting you find a quiet spot, grab a piece of paper and a pen, reflect AND…..
THINK about someone in your life who cares about you; a friend or relative, spouse or significant other.
FOCUS on the person for a minute and describe them in words or draw a picture. What do they look like? Height? Eye color? Hair? Do they smile a lot? Do they have a soft or loud voice? How would you describe their personality?
CONSIDER what makes this person special to you. Does thinking of this person make you happy? Excited? Loving? How do they make you feel?
IMAGINE you are this person who loves YOU and start to see yourself through their eyes. What do you like about this person you see? Write down thoughts, feelings and behaviors you love about yourself. I know this is tough. You may just start with “I like my eyes” – something simple. Then dig deeper. Think about the qualities you have down deep – are you caring? kind? passionate about life or a cause? hard worker? friendly?
COME BACK to yourself and read what you wrote. You will notice a growing appreciation for how you feel about yourself.
Believe me, I get how tough this can be. I struggle with it too. Do this once a week for one month and read the positive qualities daily. You will be amazed at the difference it will make in your life. Thirty days make a habit, right?
Change those negative, unhelpful thoughts into positive thoughts. Changing your mindset is the first step to make a difference in your life which will give the ripple effect of making a difference in the lives of those around you. Share you best qualities with us.
Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!