This post is NOT all about the movie “Frozen“. Although, I did see the movie and loved it. This phrase has been coming up a lot lately for me. It was the topic at a recent Weight Watcher meeting which of course sent me into emotional tailspin. WHY? Because “letting go” is not something I do easily. Then it came up in conversations with friends about business and personal lives. Do you think God is trying to send me a message?
Do your emotions lead to food? Whether we are happy, sad, stressed or angry – food seems to be solace for many of us. We probably aren’t physically hungry but we find ourselves eating mindlessly and then wondering why the scale is not moving. GUILTY!
Did you know between 35-60 percent of people who struggle with their weight claim to be emotional eaters. It becomes a habit. The two become so closely linked, we have a hard time separating them. Yes, eating can provide temporary relief but then we never learn how to handle the emotion without eating. Lately, it has become just the opposite for me – I don’t eat at all when I am upset. Not good either since my body then goes into starvation mode and the end result is the scale doesn’t move. Learning how to “let it go” is key to having balance in life (or at least in mine).
Here are some steps to use when emotions trigger an urge to eat or when you need to let go of things in your life:
- Sit comfortably with feet on the floor and back straight but not rigid. Let your gaze fall onto a spot which won’t distract you or gently close your eyes
- Settle yourself and focus on your breath moving in and out of your body.
- Imagine a blue sky with fluffy clouds lightly drifting across it (or actually watch them enjoying God’s beauty). Imagine each cloud passing by is a thought, image or feeling.
- Mentally step back to observe and label each cloud. Maybe it’s a thought about work, a feeling of frustration, an urge to eat, or feeling alone. You are not trying to change or stop the clouds, just watching, describing and letting feelings and thoughts pass by.
- Continue for two minutes. Gently bring your attention back to your breath, slowly inhaling and exhaling three times and back to the present.
You can apply this same technique to other parts of your life as well. Anger at a friend or family member. Frustration with your business. Feeling alone. Hurt by someone’s unkind words. Letting go of emotions is not easy but when we hold on to them, we feed those nasty inner gremlins. As a result, the negative feelings build up and the inner gremlins grow causing a downward spiral which effects all aspects of your life, including the scale.
What unhelpful (or negative) thought have you had when emotions trigger the urge to eat? Do a reality check? You do not have to own those feelings, you can let them go and STOMP out those inner gremlins.
Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!