I have been spring cleaning over the last few weeks….Chasing some of the dust bunnies away and attacking the many “junk drawers” around the house. I am always amazed at the things I find. WHY? Because I can’t believe I held on to them “just in case”.
I am a just in case kind of gal. When we go on a trip, I pack extra “just in case”. When we go on a road trip, I pack extra snacks “just in case”. So, finding things I have kept around “just in case” I need them or someone else will want it is what I seem to do. I have been reading the book “Simple Abundance: A Daybook of Comfort of Joy” by Sarah Ban Breathnach and I am slowing looking at things a little differently in our home.
Why is it so hard to let go? Whether it’s old e-mail or a worn-out sweater, outdated files or a toxic friendship, sometimes we hold on to things for too long. They serve no purpose but to clutter our lives unnecessarily. Today, I want to challenge you to face your fear of letting go.
There are a few common fears which appear when it’s time to let go of something. What are you hanging on to even though it’s time to let go? Which of these pesky fears is it time to face?
- fear you won’t have what you need in the future
- fear of being wrong
- fear of loneliness
- fear of regret
Breaking through fear requires one key factor: courage. Courage requires faith and trust your future will be okay without the thing you are letting go of. YIKES! Scary, right? You can muster up the courage to let go by coaching yourself with questions which will help you get unstuck, such as:
- What does my intuition tell me about letting go in this situation? Will I follow it?
- If the thing I fear most happens, what is my plan B?
- Who could I ask to hold me accountable and encourage me as I let go?
Make a decision. For those of us who are people pleasers, this is tough. I know, I am one of them. I second guess myself a million times. The best thing to do is to carve out some time to do what you need to do. You can do it. Start with small amounts of time, say 15 minutes, set a timer and when it rings you are done.
The truth is as I have been doing this, I have realized how much time and money has been spent “just in case”. I see a sale and think “I could use this” then never do. I see an idea which worked for someone else so I jump in with both feet, only to find out it isn’t me. May has been full of life reflections for me. I wonder why it took till the age of 61 to learn some of these lessons.
Toss out the OLD and move on. You will be surprised several weeks or months later, you never once needed or missed what was tossed, donated or sold. Imagine that!
My challenge to you is this: Is there something it’s time to let go of? You know what it is. Muster up the courage and just do it. You’ll feel lighter for it.
Have a ThirtyOne-derful-day!