SURPRISE!!! This is not about the actual past 90 days but about how I plan to do things differently in the next 90 days so I can end the year on a different note…
If you haven’t heard of Rachel Hollis yet, you must be living under a rock! LOL! I am reading her book “Girl Wash Your Face” again and loving it! I was introduced (not personally) to this amazing women by my pink bubble sisters and I have to say, I wasn’t sure I could jump on the bandwagon…. WHY?
Damn MS has taken a lot of my processing abilities away along with my memory!
Occasionally, I get glimpses into the mind I once had, when things seem to be clicking again. These moments are reminders of a time (since passed) when my cognitive abilities got me through grant writing, managing a non-profit, being a single mom and creating programs to help make a difference in the lives of others. I was blessed to have those abilities and be able to share them with others. Now, after years (yup memory loss has been going on for about 5 years) of battling with cognitive dysfunction (a fancy term for memory loss) because of Multiple Sclerosis, I have fewer moments when my brain feels like it’s clear and working like it did. Of all of the symptoms I’ve experienced because of MS, the loss of memory is the the one which bothers me the most.
So what does all of this have to do with the last 90 days? Instead of focusing on what should of, would of or could have happened, I’m taking baby steps into being the best me I can be right now!
I have told myself countless lies which I actually started to believe them about being less then and not deserving of good things. WHY? Because those nasty inner gremlins of my past addictive personality were raging their ugly head. I couldn’t see the good happening around me because the trees of negativity were growing fast and furious.
Instead of beating myself up on the days I can’t get things done, I am embracing the things I can get done. Some days, it is just getting up, taking a shower and plopping in the chair watching mindless TV. Then there are days when I am awake at 4:30AM, ready to ride the stationary bike for a half hour before getting into my office to get to work. Really, it does happen!
So, when the #last90day challenge was issued by my pink bubble sister, Hope Shortt, during a leadership call – I JUMPED in. Not literally because I was filled with fear and doubt. As others expressed their fears, I knew we could overcome them if we banded together – set goals and cast the vision out into the universe.
As you can tell, today is a good day! The brain is running at full speed and I am rambling on about things which hopefully will help someone else. I need to remember to not worry about tomorrow, and to stay in the moment. I need to not kick myself with regrets for things not done yesterday, I need to stay in the moment.
My cognitive problems can either be my demise or I can consider them a blessing. Honestly, there are days I beat myself up, apologize profusely and wallow on the pity pot because of my cognitive problems. As I reflect on why I stopped working in a job I loved, the truth is the struggles were taking a toll on my health. Could I admit it then, nope! Who would have thought the memory problems I was having were related to the lesions on my brain? Let alone end in a diagnosis of MS.
I am learning to embrace the “fog” in my head when it happens. Working my own business allows for those days. I have moments when I’m not thinking clearly or logically (some would wonder if I ever did). I do puzzles and games on those days to help stimulate my brain to think differently. There are days when things flow smoothly – yup, it happens, but it’s unpredictable.
For the #last90days, I’m going to try each day to be a better version of ME. I’m not going to get frustrated when getting interrupted means completely losing my thought process or what I’m doing. I will embrace my GPS even when I think I should know where I am going (yup, I forget directions). I will stop thinking of the person who excelled at multitasking and embrace the person who sometimes can’t even have another sound in the background when trying to work or write.
Yup, I squirreled (maybe even a lot) but the whole idea is about making a change in the last 90 days of 2018! Why is it so important? Because when I set my goals at the start of 2019, I want to know I am already on my way to reaching them. It is time to kick it up a notch to finish the year strong, meeting the goals I set in January 2018 so 2019 does not look like a repeat of 2018.
So, who wants to join me on the #last90days? Don’t worry about the big goals, work on just these 5 things:
- Get up an hour earlier than you normally do and use this time for YOU!
- Workout at least 30 minutes
- Drink half your body weight in water
- Give up ONE food category you shouldn’t be eating
- Write down 10 things you are grateful for each day
When you do these things, you will be amazed at the difference in makes in your life. Have faith and JUMP into this journey with us.
Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!