A weakness is defined as “a quality or feature regarded as a disadvantage or fault”.
Are you wondering why I am thankful for my weaknesses? Believe me, this was not always the case. For many years, I hid in fear of anyone finding out what my weaknesses were. I struggled to do everything asked – the people pleaser in me was afraid they wouldn’t like me if I shared my weaknesses. How many of you can relate to this?
So, I focused on my strengths – to move ahead in my career, to grow my direct sales business, to build relationships and to hide my weaknesses. Not letting many close enough to see my true weaknesses. The first time I wrote this post, it was all about being in direct sales, this time it is more of a personal revelation to help those who may be struggling….
In business and in life, we can’t be strong in every aspect. For those of us who feel insecure, this is a hard pill to swallow. We compare ourselves to others, afraid to admit what we don’t know. Just because we may have a weakness, it doesn’t mean we shouldn’t try. Trying and failing is part of learning and growing.
Think about your life (and your business). Things are probably dictated by what you’re good at. In your life, your hobbies, your job, your relationships are all based on the things you are good at and enjoy, right? What about your business? If you are in direct sales, don’t you focus on the things you are good at whether it is booking, selling or recruiting? I mean we can’t all be good at everything, right? We are usually good at one aspect and struggle on another. As a result, we place a majority of our focus on our strengths. Makes sense though right? If you’re strong in one aspect then it’s probably the part you most enjoy as well! But is thinking like this letting you grow?
I challenge you to be thankful for your weaknesses. We all have them, but sometimes it can be hard to look in the mirror and tell ourselves we need to be better at the part we struggle with. I don’t mean in a “beat yourself up” kind of way. I mean to look at the things you want to change or aren’t good at; find resources to help you learn, and strive to be a better version of yourself tomorrow.
I will admit I have always been a “beat yourself up” kind of gal. MS and recovery have taught me a lot. I am able to admit my weaknesses, ask for help and then even try some of the suggestions I’m given. Notice I didn’t say DO them but I said try. My goal is to be a better version of myself every day.
Let’s start by writing down what you are strongest at right now. What do you feel you do really really well. That’s the pillar you build upon. Next, write out what you feel you do decent. Not great but you can get by with the skills you have. These are items you’ll build up over time. But lastly, write out what you feel like you just aren’t good at, or not comfortable doing at all!
The last list is the one you have to go and face head on. These are the topics you should be searching for online, and watching videos to help give you the tools to succeed in your business or in life. It can be hard to admit these to ourselves but it can be the most freeing exercises, as it’s you giving yourself the direction you need.
Some of my weaknesses I am thankful for today are being an introvert (shocker, right?), controlling my graze eating, taking everything personally when someone says something, and the dreaded comparison game. The two things I am working on right now is controlling my graze eating and playing the comparison game. Eating on the Wahl’s Diet which is designed for those with MS has helped but I still have the urge to “pick” once in a while. The comparison game or being self-critical is a tough one to overcome. Some days are better than others but I am learning to let go and let God on the days when I want to beat myself up for something I have no control over. I am also learning asking for help allows us to meet some really great people and get to know others better.
What weaknesses are your thankful for? Have a blessed day!