What is YOUR Brand?

A few weeks ago I walked into a vendor event to hear “are you the angel lady that sells Thirty One?”.  It took me a minute but then I said “yes”.  I was totally surprised by the question but grateful the two things were linked together.

Obviously you know I am a Thirty One consultant BUT I also love to make and share my angels.

I have found the perfect way to combine my two loves to make a difference in the lives of others.  My traveling angel pins allow individuals to buy an angel and send one to a person who needs some encouragement.  Know someone who is struggling?  Let me know and I will send them a pin.

Where is all of this leading?  I have (accidentally) branded myself as “the Thirty One angel lady”.  Is it a bad thing? No! But I am grateful to have created my own niche of making a difference.

1. Realize branding does apply to you.

No matter what you do, branding can take your career or business to the next level.  Your brand reflects your reputation — what you’re known for (or would like to be known for). What was once called a reputation is now called a brand.  Don’t we all want to be know for something?

2. State who and what you are (not what you’re not).

Remember positive brings positive into your Universe.  Your branding should be consistent from beginning to the end.  Showcase your accomplishments and expertise but don’t overinflate to the point you can’t follow through.  Authenticity is the key.  I am all about giving back.  Hubby says my tagline should be “I will never be Rockefeller (rich with money)” because I am all about giving to others.

3. Honestly, ask yourself what is your value.

When was the last time you wrote down your core strengths. Prepare a list. Ask yourself what your top 5 accomplishments have been in the past 5, 10, 15 years. Which ones stand out as the most value to your business or your company?

Branding is all about impressing others not ourselves, right?  So, why not ask others what they see as your most positive attributes (family, friends, or colleagues). I know this can be scary BUT you may be surprised to find out how others perceive you. You may actually be surprised to see what things come to the forefront as your areas of expertise.

4. Understand developing a brand takes time.

This is HUGE!  I have been with Thirty One for 6 years.  I have done many things to try and “brand myself” but with the help of Desiree Wolfe, I found my niche.  

What does it mean? Every day, I share things which bring my brand (Thirty One and angels) into the spotlight.  I want to make a difference and I try to do it every day in some small way with everyone I meet.  Remember developing a brand is about adding value which results in you being seen and heard. It’s about distinguishing you from your competitors.

5. Create a blog and write what you know.

I hear the groans of those who say “I can’t write”.  How often are you asked the same question by almost all of your customers?  Maybe it is about a situation or a product or a service.  Guess what?  You answer the question a million times, why not write about it and share the answer.  It’s simple – choose a hot question in your field and just start writing by answering it in an article or blog post.  You have now proven you know what you’re talking about.

6. Interact more than less.

I’m still getting the hang of this.  I don’t want to be spammy or pushy or salesy. I do want to gain attention to me (as the brand) then my products and services which leads to more sales.  I may blog daily but I don’t consistently post comments on Facebook groups or on other blog posts.  You need to decide what works with your schedule and time ability.

Your online identity is a priority in today’s busy digital world. I heard “your online branding as a #digitaltattoo which is so true.  Once it is out there – it stays out there. Wonder where you stand right now?  Google yourself, your brand, or your product/service.  See what comes up.  The biggest compliment I have received is when someone I know as an acquanitence tells me they Googled a subject and I came up.

My angels help me stand out with my Thirty One customers.  The angels help them to remember me!  What is your brand?  Share it with us.

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!

How Do You Measure Your Worth?

“The better you feel about yourself, the less you feel the need to show off.” ~Robert Hand

Do you remember the first time you were gripped by fear?  Maybe it was wanting the perfect score on a test?  Maybe it was vying for a promotion and thinking you were not good enough?  Regardless of what the scene was, maybe you felt like if you didn’t do XYZ perfectly, then you were worthless.

For years, I strove to be the best. From wanting to be in the popular crowd in school to wanting to achieve the top spot in my chosen field.  Each time I added something to my list of achievements, I felt a surge of worthiness.  I felt good about myself…. the cycle of tying my worth to my achievements had started.

As I look back on my high school years, from my teen pregnancy on, I felt unworthy. Unworthy of love.  Unworthy of the promotion.  Never measuring up despite the positive accomplishments in my life.  Then the years in my addiction caused more feelings of unworthiness.

When I got clean, I was forced to redefine my idea of self-worth. I realized chasing my worth based on one accomplishment after another was making me miserable. The truth was I was caught in the comparison game. I had to learn I am worthy simply because I exist, and nothing more.

Do you want to overcome the need to base your worth on accomplishments? Here are so tips to help you:

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1. Make a list of all the things you love about yourself be sure they have nothing to do with an achievement.

Silly?  Hard?  Absolutely! The first time I did this, nothing came to mind except my accomplishments.

Slowly, I embraced the fact I love how giving I am. I’m compassionate and sensitive, which I love about myself.  I’m a good listener. The list keeps flowing as I sit and reflect.

Having a hard time? Ask your loved ones or a few close friends to tell you what they love about you. It is a wonderful way to remind you; you are more than what you do.

2. Redefine your idea of success.

How did you feel the last time you perused social media and saw your friends accomplishing seemingly great things in their life. They looked successful, and I felt unsuccessful as a retired social worker with my own business.

So what does a successful life look like to me?  For me, a successful life is spending the day doing things I love. Having loving relationships. It would be making a positive impact, however small, in the life of others.  It isn’t all about the money.

Guess what I realized? My life is already a success. I spend my days working for myself and making a difference in the lives of others.  I have wonderful loving relationships.

When you are gripped with unworthiness, ask yourself what success would look like to you, and you alone. Are there ways you’re already living a successful life, based on your  own definition? The answer might surprise you.

3. Practice unconditional self-love.

Do you know what dogs (or cats) and babies have in common? They don’t have to do a single thing to deserve our love or be worthy of our love. They don’t try to prove themselves to us. We love them unconditionally simply because they exist.  So what if we applied the same principal to ourselves? What if we didn’t have to do anything or prove anything to be worthy of self- love? What if we deserved unconditional love, just like our pets or our children?

Practice extending unconditional love to yourself by forgiving yourself when you’re not perfect, and recognizing you deserve love no matter what you achieve.

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Letting go of perfectionism isn’t easy.  We are a work in progress.  Stifling the need to base our worth on external validation is a continual process. But, with time, we can begin to shed our layers of conditioning that taught us we are not worthy, and see ourselves for the beautifully deserving beings we are.

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!

The Comparison Game

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We have all done it sometime in our life….

We have compared everything—our husbands, our children, our churches, our cars, our jobs, our homes, our schedules, our finances, our blessings, and our burdens.  Admit it!  It is what women (okay, I’m sure men do it too) do in an attempt to measure up.  It is one of the most dangerous and destructive behaviors that we as women engage in.

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When we compare our life, our family, our stuff, our failures, and our accomplishments to that of someone else we brew a bitter cup of jealousy and resentment.  I will admit that I have drank my fair share of that bitter drink.

Our comparison is based on just what we see on the outside.  Maybe it is all of those “perfect” posts on Facebook.  It is like comparing apples to oranges.  We know the good, the bad and the ugly of our own situation. Yet, we only know one side of the person that we are comparing ourselves to.

It’s easy to listen to the voices (those inner gremlins) that say, “You’re not this, and you’re not that. You don’t do this well, and you can’t do that.”  Those inner gremlins would LOVE to get in your face and keep you down.  You were made to be you, and are called to be uniquely you.

There is nothing wrong with striving for excellence. And being aware of areas in our lives that need improvement is good.  God has a plan for each of us and we need to accept that we are right where we are supposed to be at this time.  The sooner that we ACCEPT who we are right now, the happier we will be.  I’ll admit that I struggle some days.

When I struggle, I begin looking for things that I am grateful for.  Writing a gratitude list helps to squash those inner gremlins.  Believe it or not, even though things in your life appear to be a negative (a divorce, a lost job, an addiction, credit card debt, etc), they can all be something that you can be grateful for.  No, I haven’t lost my mind.  It is all about re-framing our thoughts and moving forward.  For YEARS, I let the inner gremlins take control of my life – beating me up for all of my past mistakes.  When I started changing the way that I thought about those things, I slowly stopped comparing myself to others.

What about your accomplishments?  Can you list them?  I have achieved so much in my life and because I was busy playing the comparison game, I missed enjoying some of those moments.  I won awards for the work I did as a Social Worker.  I raised an amazing daughter.  I inspire women every day to look for that little bit of sparkle in their life.  I beat drugs and am staying clean for 25+ years.  I lost over 100 pounds.  I am CEO of my own business. I am fighting MS.

I feel so blessed to have made so many connections with like-minded women. When we aren’t playing the comparison game, we are open and ready to welcome new mutually beneficial relationships into our lives.  Whether that is to help you grow your business or for personal growth.

It’s time we quit chasing the interests of others and start pursuing the passions that were written on our hearts. God wants us to stop trying to measure up to everybody around us and be content in Him.

Need some help or just want to talk… reach out, I would love to talk with you.

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!

Tap Into Your Power

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WOOHOO, it is Monday!  Hopefully you took advantage of the extra hour of sleep when you set the clocks back.  I always struggle with time change whether it is forward or back.  My body just wants things to be consistent, that is my comfort zone.

Today, we are going to take about POWER!  I have been working with the AMAZING Eryka Peskin for a few months now and wanted to share some tips from her on “tapping into your power”.  We have the power to make choices every day.  We can choose how we act, react, don’t act, think, respond, and so on.  We have choices.

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Everyone has the power to make changes in their life and the world around them. Here are some ways to tap into your personal power to make the changes that you desire:

1. Set a goal and MAKE IT HAPPEN.

One of the most effective ways to build your sense of power is to set a goal…and then achieve it!  You may already have a goal such as losing weight or exercising 3 times a week or find a new job or to make more money in your business.  They are BIG goals.  Set a small and doable goal.  Something tiny so that you can accomplish it and feel the POWER that it brings to you.

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2. Acknowledge yourself for achieving your goal.

This is one place where size doesn’t matter.  Make a list of ALL of the awesome stuff you’ve done in the last week (month, year or your life).  Actually write it down and post it somewhere so that you can reflect on it when struggles come. Now, CELEBRATE yourself and your accomplishments.  Focus on your greatness rather than draining your energy by thinking about all you lack or could have done better.  Feel the power?

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3. Know the things that DISempower you, so you can choose how you react to them.

I have to admit that this simple step has brought the most POWER into my life.  I know the inner gremlins of limiting beliefs, the fears and my inner critic.  Each one has a name since we are on such a personal relationship.  What is your “thing” or “things” that take away your power?  I love that when those things get triggered, I get to decide how I am going to response because that’s where your power of choice is: the power of choice.

As for me, I make the decision daily to not let my fears or limiting beliefs determine why actions for the day. Let me tell you when the day is done, I feel AMAZING!

4. Speak up for what you want..to yourself and to the world.

Speaking your truth is such a beautiful and powerful act.  This can be tough especially if you haven’t squashed those inner gremlins that like to take control.  When you speak up and get your A$K on, is an incredible act of power.  Okay, so they may say “NO” but that is okay.  At least you took control and believe me, it is a powerful feeling when you speak the truth about what you truly want for your life.

I can’t wait to hear how you tap into your power this week.  Hope you have a ThirtyOne-derful day!

New Years Eve

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What happened to 2014?  It seems like yesterday, we were welcoming in 2014 and now is it time for 2015.  Tell me that I am not the only one that scrolls through my Facebook posts to see what happened this year.  They say the memory is the first to go.  LOL!

Over the past few years, I have chosen a word as the theme for the year.  This year it was EMBRACE.  I am not sure that I was very good at embracing things for most of the year but as 2014 comes to a close – I am EMBRACING all the changes that took place this year, mostly with me over the last 2 months.

This year had many great memories – kicking off the New Year in NY with Belinda and Ashley then a trip to the Macy’s Day Thanksgiving parade with the girls.  A trip to North Carolina where we got to see behind the scenes at the Circus courtesy of a WCU graduate.  Thirty One’s National Conference where my first Director walked the stage. I met some of my goals in my Thirty One business.  I would have to say, the addition of a life coach has been one of the BEST things that I did this year.  The internal transformations will show in a kick butt year personally and in my business in 2015.

What do I want to accomplish next year (2015)?

  • Get back to goal weight (a mere 10 pounds to lose)
  • Recruit at least 4 new Thirty One team members to the Rays of H.O.P.E team
  • Earn the Leadership Trip for two!  (a Belinda & me trip since hubby as no desire to go)
  • Help 1 of my Thirty One team members to promote
  • A trip to Maine for Belinda’s graduation as she gets her Master’s
  • A trip to North Carolina
  • Two trips to Ohio – first for a Director’s retreat and then for National Conference
  • Pay off more credit card debt
  • Do monthly acts of kindness – fundraising or gifting

I know you are all thinking – resolutions don’t work, right?  These are not resolutions but accomplishments for the year.  Some are things that are already on the calendar while others are things that I will work towards during the year.  What do you want to accomplish next year?

The second question is probably more important than the first:

 How will you get there?

  • Continue to track my food and attend my Weight Watcher meetings – faithfully!
  • Share the gift of Thirty One with EVERYONE.  Embracing the re-ignited passion for my business.
  • Continue to use Dave Ramsey’s debt snowball to pay off my credit card debt. Remember to NOT use any credit cards despite the “want”
  • Continue to give back to the community helping others
  • Continue working with my life coach/ counselor to shed the bags that have kept me stuck personally and professionally.

I know that these are not specific action steps but they are the list that I will refer back to every month to make sure that I am on the right path towards achieving my goals.  S.M.A.R.T. goals in my life are not effective nor are resolutions.  The enthusiasm that I have when first made dies after the first month or so when I fall short.  This year’s “achievement” list allows me to make mistakes and fall short but also encourages me to get back on track with each new day (or month).

So, what do you want to accomplish in 2015 and how are you going to do it?

Best wishes for a safe, healthy and Happy New Year’s Eve.

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