On My Way…..NOT!

Today’s blog post has been re-written many times.  First filled with the excitement of earning the Leadership Incentive trip and heading on a FREE cruise with my daughter.  Then it was about the delayed cruise and spending some time in NC with Belinda.  This morning, I am re-writing again…
The Leadership Incentive Trip has officially been cancelled. Irma entered our lives and changed everything!  No, I don’t mean the cute clothes from LuLa Roe.  I mean the devastating hurricane which is leaving its mark every where it lands.  Devastating the Carribean as it makes it way to Florida and the US.  
I will admit, I had a pity party last night.  I long for some quality time with my daughter but sadly if Irma continues on the projected track, they will be in its path.  I have weathered many a hurricane but at the ripe old age of 60, I decided staying home was probably a better idea.  
Since the blog posts are already written for the next week while I was supposed to be traveling, I will still be sharing some of my top bog posts from the past.  Some may be tweaked but others will just be “throwbacks” of my most popular ones.  I have been reflecting on the earning period for the Leadership Incentive trip and why I was successful this time when I hadn’t been in the past.
If you are trying to change an aspect of your life, here are some tips which helped me – thank you Patty Lennon

1. Decide to succeed.

There is a goal you are striving for right now which is deeply personal and vital to you. Remove the possibility of NOT succeeding from your mind right now. This means each time you fall down, you get back up because any failure is temporary.  I will say, utilizing this mindset every month has helped me reach my monthly goals even during the dreaded “J” months.

I wanted to earn this trip as a gift for hubby for our 5th wedding anniversary.  I wanted him to experience my “pink bubble” so he would understand why it is so important to me.  So, in my mind success became inevitable. I was no longer willing to NOT succeed. Which leads to …

2. Get Support.

When you are reaching for a goal you have not achieved before whether it’s growing your business to a new level, changing your health or improving your relationships you will do far better if you have help.  Who can support you in achieving your goal?

I have been sharing my monthly goals with everyone – my team, my customers and basically anyone who would listen. They celebrated and encouraged me every step of the way.  When Negative Nellie stopped for a visit, I looked for someone to help me kick her to the curb.

3. Don’t Give Up.

Whatever goal is most important to you right now it is critical you not give up, especially if the goal is related to your business. The truth is most things fail the first time  around especially in business – whether it’s a new message, promotion or marketing campaign. It is NORMAL.  Everyone falls down. Your choice (and the choice which defines those who succeed) is whether you get back up.  Everything is possible when you make the decision to succeed. No matter what happens do not give up!

With my first LIT earned, what is next for me and my business?  I will admit planning for September has been a struggle.  A holiday weekend led into getting ready for a week away.  I was hoping earning the trip would keep me motivated but the truth is, Vacation Veronica is knocked on my door. As I ponder what to do this week, I am setting my goal for September and am working on a plan to earn the Leadership Incentive Trip again next year.

Using these tips has helped me in my business so I am I am going to apply them to my weight loss journey to see what happens.  I am just 7 pounds away from being back at goal weight so it is non-negotiable.  I want to celebrate reaching my goal and not look back.

The truth is “the Divine will light your path with miracles to make it easier as you go.”  Send your positive energy into the Universe.  What is your goal?

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!

Do You Suffer From Goal Fatigue?

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WOOHOO!  Happy Friday……

I have been talking with friends over the last week about our goals for the year and it seems like some have run out of energy?  They are getting close to their goal and their desire wains.  They are losing steam.  Crazy, right?  You would think the closer you get, the more excited you get.  Unfortunately, it is not always the case and there are some solid reasons for it.

I get it, though, we are just two months from the end of the earning period for the Leadership Incentive Trip and I am getting distracted.  I saw the same thing happen on my weight loss journey as I got closer to goal weight the first time.  I believe it is our inner gremlins of fear and doubt but there are some other theories on the subject.

When we start out, we are motivated. Then distractions pop up and our consistency drops off.  When we have LOTS of goals on the table sometimes they take more time and energy than we first thought.  Before you know it, you feel scattered and don’t know what the next step to take is. So you STOP – not taking any steps.

I’m sure I am not alone when I say “I often think I can accomplish more than I can”.  Maybe it is the comparison gremlin or being an optimist or some would say I am just clueless.  Whatever it is, the size of my goals usually exceed the time frame in which I can get them done.  How many goals or New Year Resolutions did you make? The truth is, when we set too many goals, we are usually sabotaging our ability to reach any of them.  And sometimes, the problem isn’t setting too many goals, but not recharging and celebrating between goals. Yup, I’m guilty of it!

This is my vision board for this year…..I was inspired by my accountability partner to just draw it instead of cutting out pictures from a magazine.  Of course, we don’t have many magazines so it was always a good excuse not to do one.  Drawing it made it real to me.  I carry a copy of it in my planner so I can look at it when fear and doubt creep in.vision-board

Okay, so back to “goal fatigue”.  Researchers talk about your emotional and personal resources getting depleted as you travel on your journey to the finish line of your goal. Believe it or not, the discipline and mental energy necessary for you to reach a goal are finite, even if your ambition is not. Now, it doesn’t mean you stop setting goals what it does mean is narrowing your focus.

When you set too many goals (or New Year’s Resolutions), your finite energy is spread thin instead of concentrating on one or two things.  Yes, you can still exhaust your personal energy when you have only one goal.  The key is to replenish it before you jump into the next goal.  Here is where some self-care and celebration comes in once you reach a goal.  Otherwise, you begin your next journey with a less energy available to help you reach the next goal.

I know, narrowing our efforts is hard.  We all want to reach our goals as quickly as possible!  Remember the story about the tortoise and the hare?tortoisegoingdown

Be consistent and strategically plan knowing each step you take is getting you closer to your goal.  Be sure to nurture and replenish your energy.  Embrace the process because when you do, you will get there faster and actually enjoy the journey.

I am keeping it simple and learning how to take time to re-energize.  Here are some questions to help you figure this all out, courtesy of Valerie Burton:

  • What is your most important goal right now?
  • What other goals and activities are depleting the personal resources (discipline, time and mental energy) you need in order to reach your goal?
  • What adjustments are you able and willing to make to give you more personal resources to reach the goal?

Share your vision board with us.  Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!

What Do You Really Want?

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I love seeing the different things that Thirty One carried in their earlier catalogs.  Yes, we sold bird feeders.  #tbt

An article by Team Conections resonated with me as I transform my business this year (Thirty One’s year) to a heart to heart business.  The title of the article was “What do you Really, Really Want?”.  How many of you are humming the Spice Girl’s song?  Be honest!

I always wonder where I have failed as a leader when my team’s performance is inconsistent.  As a Leader, my goals not only depend on me but also on the performance of my team.  This is true in most direct sales companies.  As consultant, we achieve a level of success based on our own merits.  When we move into leadership, our success is not only measured by our personal success but also on how well we encourage, motivate and inspire our teams to follow our lead.

Here are the 3 steps that were suggested to figure out what you REALLY, REALLY want (yes, I am still humming!).

Step One: You, the Leader

What do you really, really want? What are you willing to do to achieve it? Each goal-setting season begins with some soul searching. It is helpful to get away and spend some quiet time writing the answers to these questions:

  • What do I want for my family?
  • What do I want for myself?
  • What do I want my team to achieve?
  • What am I willing to do to achieve these goals?
  • What must I sacrifice to make them happen?
  • Who must I get involved?
  • Who needs to know my goals to support me in their success?
  • Is my team in place to realistically achieve these goals?

Step Two: Your Team Members

What does each team member really, really want?  What is he or she willing to do to achieve it? Find out by talking to each of them! Ask them the questions that you have pondered yourself.  Building relationships is the key and one I have struggled with over the years.  Pretty funny since as a retired Social Worker that was what I did every day.  Yet, somehow I have a hard time translating those skills to my personal life and to my own business.  It is now time to explore with your team and help them match up what they want with what they are willing to do.

Step Three: Match the Goals of the Leader to the Goals of the Team

Once you have an understanding of what your team wants and what they are ready and willing to do to accomplish their goals, you can realistically set your own goals.Take some time to put numbers to your team’s goals. What does each of their individual efforts add up to? How many are looking to promote? What are their sales and recruiting goals? If each one achieves their goal, what does that mean to you? Once you have added up the results of what will happen if each of your team members meets their personal goals, take a good look at how it matches up with your own goals.

If things line up, it’s time to support your team in achieving their dreams as you follow through on your personal goals. If they don’t, what must you do to fill in the gap? Will you recruit more to find that next leader? Sell more to make up the team sales goal? Invite more people into your leadership promotion system? Perhaps you will adjust your goals to line up with the team. Maybe their dreams are bigger than you expected and it’s time to stretch your goals higher!

Do you really, really know who wants to be one of your new leaders this fall?  These three steps may be what you need to get started.  One of the most important keys for having a successful team is promoting new leaders.  You want to find and support those who want to grow a business just like yours.  Promoting new leaders starts with you!

 

So, what do you really, really want?  Share your thoughts with us.

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!

 

Business & Weight Loss Goals – the same?

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The last day of the month and the crunch is on, especially if you are in direct sales.  Maybe you are stalking your back off to see if you made your numbers.  Maybe you are taking last minute orders from customers who forgot to order (retiring product or thermal special).  Maybe you are looking at the scale and thinking, next month I will do better.  If any of these are you, here are some thoughts from an article that I read about the similarity between business and weightless/ fitness goals.

Are you successful in your business?  Do you wonder how you can get back to exercising (or maybe even start)?  Are you tired of trying to loose weight? Maybe this will help

 

 

1. Results don’t happen overnight.

When I started my direct sales business, it was busy at first because of the excitement of sharing new product.  When I started my weight loss journey, I was excited when I lost a few pounds.  The excitement kept me moving forward and I never really thought that success wasn’t happening overnight.  I was willing to put in the work because I saw results.  I reached goals by taking it one day at a time.  I was willing and continue to be willing to work hard to reach my goals, no matter how long it takes.

2. Success requires a complete plan.

Okay, so I tried “winging” it in weight loss and in my business.  No plan written down.  The results were disastrous.  I ended up making unhealthy food choices and my business was stuck.  So what did I do differently to reach some of my goals?  I joined Weight Watchers for a plan.  To have someone tell me what I could and couldn’t eat – worked.  I mean after loosing 108 pounds why would I consider anything else.  As for business goals, I now have a plan on what I want to accomplish each day, each week, quarterly and annually.  I mean how many of us would walk into a job every day without some kind of a plan.  No matter what your job, you have a plan (or a routine). The same is true about weight loss goals.

 

3. Step away from your comfort zone.

On a daily basis I step out of my comfort zone in my business.  I am willing to talk to new people, try to new ideas and open my mind to learning from others.  So why don’t I do the same thing in my weight loss/ exercise journey.  I tried the gym for about  2 weeks faithfully.  Then I got bored.  Actually I didn’t see results.  I tried to ride the stationary bike consistently.  I didn’t see results.  Do we see a pattern here.  Refer back to #1. I have done what is comfortable (the same things) and expecting different results.  Insane, right? I stepped out of my comfort zone with Weight Watchers so why is exercising so different.  FEAR!  Yup, that sums it up. So just like when I let FEAR run my business, letting FEAR run my exercise program will get me the same results – STUCK!

 

4. Make your goals attainable.

It’s important that you always set goals that are reachable. This isn’t to say that you should create easy goals just for the sake of hitting them — but they need to be feasible.  Maybe a little out of reach that will require stepping out of your comfort zone.  This is a struggling point for me in my weight loss journey and in my business.  I see the BIG picture and want it NOW.  I mean can’t someone just wave the magic wand and make it happen.  The truth is that when I started working towards attainable goals in my business and my weight loss journey – I reached those goals.  So, why do I struggle so much when it comes to exercise?  Anyone have a magic wand or a crystal ball so I can SEE what exercise I will like and stuck with?

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5. Embrace the lifestyle.

I have always been willing to get up early for work – I mean what other crazy person would make a 4-hour round-trip commute to work then work 40+hours and be on call 24/7 if they weren’t willing to work.  I still get up early and am in my office by 6:30AM. I embrace my direct sales business the same way.  Hubby says on most days that is all I talk about.  So I embrace the lifestyle of my business.  Eating healthy and following Weight Watchers is a lifestyle too.  I have embraced that or I wouldn’t be able to keep off the weight that I lost, right?  Here is the kicker, I just haven’t been able to embrace the exercise lifestyle.  Can’t or won’t?  It is a lifestyle that ignites my inner gremlins of not being good enough as or not coordinated enough. I know that if I want results I have to embrace the lifestyle which simply means adding it to my calendar and stepping out of my comfort zone.  Are we seeing a pattern here?

My challenge to you, if you are struggling with both of these areas in your life – set a goal that is attainable in each area and be prepared to work to reach that goal no matter what.  Baby steps to get started.  If you have success in one of these areas and not the other – apply the same principles from the successful area to the unsuccessful area and see what a difference it makes

Share your thoughts, I would love to know what you think.

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!