How Do You Define Success?

positive thoughtsIn the dictionary, success is defined as : the fact of getting or achieving wealth, respect, or fame; and the correct or desired result of an attempt.  

I love when someone asks me this question because on any given day, I don’t FEEL successful.  The “no’s” have out numbered the yea’s.  The goals set seem unobtainable.  Satan is having a field day and Doubtful Debbie has crashed the party.

Most days my success is not about the exterior things, it is about the interior changes I am making as I walk the road of recovery.  Don’t get me wrong, all of the “stuff” is great but I find when I get into all of the material aspects, I forget about the interior success I am making in my life. I lose focus and the world begins to spin.  For some, a success journal or gratitude list help them to celebrate keep their success – large and small keeping it in front of them on a daily basis.

Here is a fun tip from Party Plan Divas:

Keeping a success journal  will help to motivate you when Doubtful Debbie comes to call.  Takes only 10-15 minutes a day to write down your achievements and the tasks you’ve accomplished. I bet these 15 minutes a day have the power to transform all your life.  I know you are saying – “When do I have 10 minutes to myself?”. Find them – sitting in the car as they fill your gas tank, waiting to pick the kids up from school or an activity or even in the bathroom.  I know that may sound crazy but for some, that is the ONLY place to get a few minutes of peace and quiet.

By writing down your achievements you will be able to feel the progress. You will see how by small steps you’re moving closer and closer to your goal.  Remember that writing things down makes us accountable and keeps us on track.  Just like tracking your food when dieting – a success journal will help you to eliminate temptation.  A Success Journal will also help you to keep Doubtful Debbie and Negative Nellie from paying an unwelcome visit.  Believe it or not, it will help to simplify your life (that is what they say – but I am not so sure about that).

However you should be aware of three rules of keeping a success journal:

1. Write only what you’ve done.  Don’t write what you still haven’t done and what you still have to do tomorrow.  List only accomplished tasks and achievements.  Keep with the POSITIVE and a voice the NEGATIVE.

2. List even small things.  Everything counts! A phone call, an email blast, or your decision to pass by the chocolate cheesecake.  This could help on so many levels.

3. Make it a daily habit.  Don’t skip days! Even if you’re exhausted make sure you write at least 1-2 sentences in your success journal. Even if the only thing you did that day was think about your goal.  In 30 days you wouldn’t possibly be able to live without it.  Remember that it takes 21-days to make it a habit!

Who has a success journal?  How has it helped you?

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!

#TBT: YOUR Bag-Holding Technique

I decided to pull out one of my OLD blog posts and update…Today is the LAST day of Thirty One’s Fall/Winter Catalog and any of our favorite products are going away… WHY?  Because the NEW Spring/Summer Catalog starts tomorrow.

Since joining Thirty One I have been carrying a variety of purses.  Some I fell in love with while others were not my cup of tea.  But everyone has a purse style and a way to carry it which tells a lot about them….

Let’s have some fun…Did you ever think that someone can tell what type of person you are by the way you carry your bag?  Which one of these are  YOU?

 

THE SCHLEPPER: You’ve got 2, 3,4 or maybe even 5 bags to worry about so you’ve got a “whatever fits” strategy going on.  You’re fatigued, exhausted and in a rush.  The bags suggest you’re a little spaced out and have a hard time being present.

THE ARM CROOK HOOK: Favorites of paparazzi-chased celebs, this limp-handed style just screams power. You are wearing the bag as if it’s a badge of honor or an award.  You feel as if you’ve got a sense of superiority.

THE HANDS-FREE: The girl who wears a hands-free bag willingly covers up her silhouette and outfit.  It’s useful, but it also shows you’re slightly dorky.  Tends to be a favorite with young women.

THE TWOFER: usually done with a coy smile and a leg cross, the two-handed twofer clutch denotes a shy, defensive person.  This creates a fig leaf position as if you were protecting your goods.  If you find yourself dong this on a date, it’s because you feel weird about where it’s going.

THE BAGUETTE: a recent favorite of street style stars, the baguette style is a scoop-up, on-the-go method.  It’s a utilitarian look and you don’t really care about the bag but rather what’s in it. You are goal oriented.

THE THIRD ARM DRAPE: The move usually involves a bag with a long strap – but instead of crossing it over, you choose to wear it over your shoulder. Since the bag is prone to slipping around, it shows a lack of awareness and says “I don’t have power over my world”

THE ARMPIT VICE: Clutches are hard to hold, but this move keeps your bag in place while leaving your hands free.  There’s an awkwardness about it, and I see if happen a lot with women who are carrying a purse that doesn’t fit her body.

THE BRIEFCASE: There is a certain type of woman who chooses to forgo the shoulder strap for the top handle.  She’s in business mode.  She’s going fas and her bag has a lot of weight – she cars less about her appearance and more about where she’s off to.

THE THUMB-TO-PIT: There is a resin this move’s associated with Carrie from Sex and the City – women in cosmopolitan cities are doing this.  They remember their mamas telling them to protect their bags.  They don’t want to get them pulled off while they are walking.  They are street smart.

So ladies, which one are you?  I  am usually a cross between the “thumb-to-pit”, the “third-arm drape” and the “briefcase” depending on where I am going for the day.  I am not sure I agree with all of these description so please don’t shoot the messenger. The next time you pick up YOUR bag, think about the message you are sending….

Share with us your thoughts… Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!

Happy No Brainer Day

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No, I’m not kidding!  Today is actually “No Brainer Day”

Have you ever wanted a day dedicated to doing something simple, easy, obvious, and/or totally logical?  For me, I usually need make every morning start like this as a result of the MS.  But I also get to have days like this because I love what I do.  Working for myself, loving the work I do all make it so much easier to have this kind of day.  Don’t get me wrong, I  have days where I think, plan, and analyze but they are scheduled to keep life simple.  So, if you have a project which requires thinking, studying, or analysis of any kind, today would NOT be the day to do it.  LOL!

Having my own business, I love finding simple solutions for my customers using our amazing Thirty One products.  My office systems are simple and make things easy for me to stay on top of things.

Yes, it is one of those random holidays but here is the origin as posted on holiday insights

This day was created by Adrienne Sioux Koopersmith, ‘America’s Premier Eventologist’ – per Insight Magazine – Washington, DC – August, 1995, and ‘The Premier Eventologist in the History of the World – per The Chicago Tribune – Chicago, Il – January 2001.

So today I will be a billboard for my business as I shop, run errands and drive around town. I will be creative as I work on some new angel designs.  Are there really a “no-brainer”? As long as I don’t stress about numbers, sales and the end of the month crunch – it will be simple and easy.  The systems I have in  place to make this purse gig totally logical.  Plain and simple – maybe every day should be a no-brainer day.  What do you think?

What you will be doing on “No Brainer Day”?  Share how you will be spending your day.

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!

Are You Ready to Quit?

We are coming to the end of  a “J month”…. one of those months when people don’t typically spend.  It includes June and July too.  I’m grateful Thirty One set us up for success with an AMAZING outlet sale at the beginning of the month.  Did I have incredible sales?  NO!  Did I beat last year’s numbers?  NO!  Did I panic and think about quitting?  NO!  I didn’t but some on my team did – they saw incredible success during the holiday selling season and in just 2 short weeks, they were ready to throw in the towel.

Whether you are in direct sales or have your own business there are times you may have felt like everything is going against you? You tried everything and nothing worked, right?  Maybe instead of your business growing, your business (and your confidence) was shrinking?  Been there, done that and got the t-shirt!  Have you ever wondered why you’re doing this at all?  Have you ever felt like throwing in the towel and calling it quits?

Believe it or not, you aren’t alone. I have felt the same way over the past 8 years and especially when health issues flared up.  I’ve been self-employed (only income) for 2 plus years.  It has its highs and lows but even when I feel like quitting, I know things will even out, settle down and start working again if I simply hang on.

How do I know?  Because I’ve seen it work the same way time and time again, for myself and for others.   I have faith in the foundation I laid in my business.  I know there is no success without failure, no confidence without fear and no rewards without sacrifice. It’s part of the process.  Do I still have fear and doubt?  Absolutely!  Honestly, it is one of the reasons for my word this year is “COURAGE”!   As difficult as it is, we need to learn to trust the process,  growing through our difficulties instead of giving up.

Here are 4 things I have learned about working through difficult times in your business (and life):

1. Take a step back and rest. When I am feeling overwhelmed and like nothing is going right, I simply take a step back.  Crazy, right?  It is usually a key sign I need to give myself some space and time to rest, renew and refresh.  Despite our best efforts, we can’t pour from an empty cup.  We have to take care of ourself first before we can take care of our business and others.  The “people pleasing” me wants to help everyone so I definitely struggle with this concept.  When things are the toughest or we are smack in the middle of a difficult situation, all we can see is what is in front of us.  We don’t see the light at the end of the tunnel.  So, when it happens – take a short break. I have found when I take a step back and get out of the mix, I can actually see the bigger picture.  The creative side kicks in with new ideas and a glimpse at the light at the end of the tunnel.  .

2. Go back to your vision & your why.  One of the worst parts of my MS is not remembering – not only do I not have memories of important times in my life BUT I tend to forget my “why” or have a link to the emotional aspect of it.  The truth is, when you take your eyes off your why, your vision or your goals, you’ll start to get off track and before you know it, end up in a ditch of despair.  Revisit your vision, if it doesn’t resonate anymore, create a new vision board, new goals and a new plan for success. Take some time to write out your 30 day or 90 day or 12 month vision for your life and business. Reconnect with what makes you feel excited and passionate and purposeful.  Keep focusing on your goals, don’t look in any direction but straight ahead.

3. Get out of your head and get into momentum.  “Inaction breeds doubt and fear while action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy.” – Dale Carnegie   After you take a break and refocus on your vision, take action. Don’t overthink the action you take.  Yup, that’s me.  I want to overthink EVERYTHING.  Or I should say, I want to fix, manage and control everything.  It is a real internal battle for me some days to do something positive to move my business forward.  When I’m struggling, I focus on an area which comes easy to me, one I enjoy and can get some quick results and wins (sales) with.   Why start there?  With a sense of accomplishment, you get the momentum going so you feel more positive about your business.

4. Reach out for help and support.  I need to practice what I say instead of what I do….I’m learning AGAIN to reach out and ask for help.  Another lesson as a result of my relapse.  Everything feels worse when we try to handle it by ourselves. Always being expected to be the “rock” clouded my thinking and often causes me not to reach out for help.  The truth is we don’t have to go through the tough times alone. Reach out to a team member, your up-line, a fellow direct sales sister, a friend, or a family member.  Despite those nasty inner gremlins, we are not the only person to have struggles and it doesn’t make us any more brave to try to get through it by ourself. Be willing to accept support, encouragement and help. In doing so you can make some great connections, friends and accountability partners. You will also realize others go through the same struggles, so you will be able to learn and gain confidence from their experiences.

You aren’t alone. We are all on the same journey, just at different places with different stumbling blocks and paths we are going down. Keep going because there are brighter days ahead.

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!

My One Word

WOOHOO!  The New Year has arrived….

I’m ready to kick off 2019 with my ONE WORD – COURAGE!

By definition “courage” is “the ability to do something which frightens you.”  It is the mental or moral strength to venture out, persevere, and withstand danger, fear, or difficulty.  The history books are full of social activists, like Martin Luther King and Nelson Mandela, who spoke out against injustice at great personal risk. Entrepreneurs like Steve Jobs and Walt Disney, who took financial risks to follow their dreams. They are like modern-day knights, exemplifying the rewards courage can bring.  Courage can range from physical  strength and endurance to mental stamina and innovation.

So why did  I pick this word?  Believe me I didn’t pick it, God placed it on my heart many times over the last few weeks.  I have A LOT of things which frighten me…  In being “courageous”, I have begun planning for 2019 – stepping out into some fearful territory.  Check out some of the NEWNESS coming…

  • The expansion of Rays of Hope – Angel Connection
  • Monthly mystery themed “pink boxes”
  • Monthly random acts of kindness to those who are struggling
  • Applying for disability and learning to live with and accept my MS struggles

Looking back over my “one word”, I realize God is answering my prayers, in his time not in mine.  My vision is to make a difference in the life of others but I need to know my limits.  My life has always been an open door so I can help others.  Over the years, I have stopped sharing those experiences – it is time to have the courage again to share the good, the bad and the ugly.

My first year selecting “one word” was In 2013 and my word was FAITH.  Faith to believe when the way is rough and faith to hang on when the going is tough will never fail to pull us through and bring us strength and comfort too. Helen Steiner Rice. “And Jesus said unto them, Because of your unbelief: for verily I say unto you, If ye have faith as a grain of mustard seed, ye shall say unto this mountain, Remove hence to yonder place; and it shall remove; and nothing shall be impossible unto you.” Matthew 17:20

FAITH led me to my word in 2014 which was EMBRACE.  The goal was to EMBRACE all of the blessings God had in store for me.  I needed to have FAITH before I could EMBRACE the me everyone else saw – confident, thinner, and some might even say fun.  I learned to EMBRACE challenges as blessings without a visit from Doubtful Debbie or Negative Nellie.

Having FAITH and moving forward as I EMBRACED the blessings in my life, I had to learn to TRUST in 2015!  Learning to lean on God for ALL things and TRUST him to direct my path was probably the toughest for me.  I had to learn to stop taking control when things didn’t go my way.  God is in control and I TRUST he will direct my path. I grew in my FAITH, knowing God will provide for my needs.

The inner gremlins were rearing their ugly head so in 2016, my word was CONFIDENCE!  I needed CONFIDENCE to believe when the way was rough and the going was tough.  CONFIDENCE as I learned to live with my recent diagnosis of MS.  CONFIDENCE as I squashed the inner gremlins which had haunted me all of my life.

Then in 2017, it was all about being ACCOUNTABLE.  Being accountable meant in all areas of my life not just my business. It meant watching what I ate, working my business as a business. Most of all, it meant being fully transparent in my relationships which was scary as HELL!

In 2018, my goal was to be intentional in my words and my actions. It started off a bit rocky but at the halfway mark, I was being intentional and making thoughtful choices in my life. Was it easy? NO!  Did I struggle?  Without a doubt.  I learned so much over the year as I started to grow as a person. You would think when a person hits the age of 61, they have learned.  Sadly, many old behaviors had crept back into my life and I needed to face them before I could move forward.  I can say, I ended the year by no longer doing things by the “seat of my pants”.  I plan and actually bounce things off of other people to get their input before I take action.  A new concept for me but one which reaped many benefits.

All of these lead me to this year of COURAGE!

Whatever your word is for this year, I wish you a safe, healthy and Happy New Year.  May this year bring you everything you desire….

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!