Do you have BIG dreams? The kind which scare you and make you wonder if they are even possible…
Do you dream BIG for a moment and before the thought even finishes, you have found 100 different reasons it won’t happen?
There was a time (pre-MS brain fog) when I would DREAM BIG of having my own business where I was financially stable (no debt) , I could make my own hours and do what I wanted, when I wanted. The dream soon became reality – or at least a little bit. I have my own business where I make my own hours and am slowly becoming debt-free but I have downsized those dreams.
For me, it is more about health issues. I dreamed of promoting in Thirty One, of being part of the Gives Council BUT over the last year or so, I have begun to accept some things. Traveling is more difficult. Processing thoughts is a struggle most days. My memory is just not what it used to be. Some would say I settled. Others would say I am realistic. I am happy where I am, enjoying the moment.
Do You Dream BIG?
The truth is most people downsize their dreams out of fear. Fear of criticism. Fear of failure. Fear of success and doubts about whether they can keep it up. It’s risky to dream big. The truth is, the real risk is living small. It’s getting to the end of your life and realizing so much more was possible, if only you had been willing to listen to – and pursue – the desires of your heart.
What’s your real dream? Not the dream you’ve downsized so it feels more manageable, but the true desire of your heart. Too often, we surrender to fear and settle for something less than what we really want. We even try to convince ourselves we don’t want what we want. But it’s useless. You can try to bury your dream, but it doesn’t mean it will die.
One of the most powerful decisions successful women make is this:
I do not downsize my dream.
Whether it is a vision of being debt-free and financially independent or a career calling you or a fitness goal – be bold enough to declare your real dream and go after it. Persist. Do the hard work. Be willing to face disapproval or the criticism of others. In doing so, you will be true to yourself and set the stage for creating a life which is an authentic adventure of meaningful experiences.
Don’t judge other’s dreams or even when they change their dreams. Don’t compare yourself to others if you have similar dreams or goals. These are the thoughts which will keep you dreaming small or not dreaming at all. They will keep you from living the life you were meant to have.
What is YOUR big dream? Share it with us. Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!
Change – it’s not something which is easy for me – or most people. I am again learning how I can’t change the past, I can’t go back an get a new beginning. BUT what I can do is start a new start today and make a new ending.
At the ripe old age of 61 with MS kicking my butt a lot of days, I wonder if it is to late to make changes. I think back to the many changes I made in my career – I started out looking at law school to fight for those who couldn’t fight for themselves, then it was off to Atlantic City to work in the hotel/casinos. As my addiction progressed and finally sent me to my knees, a new passion emerged and my life as a social worker was born. A career I would not change for the world. I learned so much and it gave me a chance to make difference in the lives of others. I know I am squirreling…..
How often have you asked yourself if it is too late to change careers and pursue something you are more passionate about. The truth is “It’s never too late,”! If you feel led in a new direction, make a plan to transition and go for it!
Whether you are in your twenties, or in your sixties — it is never too late. Life is too short to settle and be unhappy. So whether you want to change jobs, save a relationship or start planning for retirement – DO IT! I know, easier said then done, right?
The first thing you need to do is LET GO of the idea it’s too late to change the course of your life. Stop comparing yourself to others and where they are. Give up the shoulda, coulda and woulda. The world pressures us to believe everything has to happen in a certain time frame, and when we want to go a different route, FEAR steps in. It can feel as though it is “against the rules” to follow a path outside the norm. Who is to say what the “norm” is? Fear will keep you stuck where you are, thinking it is wrong to change your mind about what you want in life. God will often lead you in a new direction when you have learned all you were supposed to learn at a particular stage of your life. Have you learned everything you could for your current stage of life?
Our experiences develop us into a unique person and our path doesn’t look like anyone else’s and it shouldn’t. Believe it or not, the mistakes you’ve made – you can learn from them and use those lessons to make a change sometimes for the better..
Is it time to reconsider the things you had decided it was too late to do? Why not rekindle your desire for change. Give yourself permission to dream a bigger dream, walking a divinely inspired path which is uniquely yours. It’s not too late to try something new. In fact, life becomes stale when you get stuck in a rut. I know, it’s tempting to give up on the idea you could have what you really want in your life, but you don’t have to give in to temptation. Your journey becomes richer and more joyful when you remain open to your possibilities.
Here are some things it’s not too late for you to do:
- Change careers
- Go back to school
- Fall in love
- Apologize to someone you hurt
- Forgive someone who hurt you
- Plan a trip to your dream destination
- Have children (even if it’s biologically impossible, the child you were meant to have may be waiting to be adopted by you)
- Start saving for retirement
- Get fit
- Start taking better care of yourself
- Turn your finances around
- Deepen your relationship with God
- Change your attitude or your perspective on life
Today is a NEW day and I am letting go of the thoughts of “it’s too late”. Just for today, I am going to focus on the positive and where I want to be in my life. I am going to open my mind to new possibilities. I’m going to take a step in the direction to achieve my potential.
Share with us, what you decided it’s too late to do. Then tell us what steps you are going to take to move toward it? You are not alone… We can do this together.
Have ThirtyOne-derful day!
Are there dreams you have given up on? I don’t mean the one you had when you were a child to be a ballerina or a super hero? I mean the ones you had as an adult. Maybe FEAR and doubt got in the way. Maybe life got in the way – taking care of everyone else so you let the dream fade.
I will admit, I have let dreams fade over the last few years. Life definitely got in the way – health issues caused me to struggle and doubt whether any of it was possible. But the dreams are slowly starting to resurface. I have faced some of my fears and am struggling through a vision casting process.
Vision casting is when you place yourself in the moment of the dream becoming a reality. You let go of all fear, doubt and negativity while you enjoy and FEEL the moment. My director did this with me many years ago – the year I promoted to Director. As she shared the story with a hundred other women on a call last week, the tears came back to me. I remembered the moment we broke through and I could actually feel what the moment would be like. It was a miracle on many counts because I actually remembered the conversation AND I was inspired to dream again.
Think about this for a minute:
You are the only person who can decide to pursue your dream. Books don’t write themselves. Businesses don’t launch themselves. You’ve got to take the first step and keep stepping.
So, let’s talk about how YOU can dust off the dream and bring it back to life…..
1. What dream is sleeping in your life you wish were still a possibility?
Have you buried your dream so deep you forget about it? Think about it for a moment. The dream which needs to be awakened could be connected to your professional life, your finances, a relationship, your health, or your personal life. What is the dream for you right now? Write it down!
2. What do you need to give yourself permission to do it?
We bury things which are important for a variety of reasons. Whatever reason made you bury the dream, it’s time to give yourself permission to dream again. It’s okay. Were you hurt and decided it was safer not to go down a certain road anymore? Did naysers convince you it wasn’t possible? Did responsibilities in life dictate it was better to let your dream die? Or did the dream seem impossible to achieve, so you gave up? Whatever your reason, use the past as a learning tool to recast your dream. Have the faith to believe nothing is impossible.
3. What do you need to say about it?
Speak life into your dream NOW! Remember “The Secret” and positive attraction? Say your dream out loud. Hear the words, I mean really hear them! Attract the positive, not the negative! Share your dream with someone else! Then observe how you talk about it. When you state all the reasons you can’t have what your heart desires, you speak negativity (death) to your dream. Each negative word is like a shovel, digging the grave and then piling dirt onto it until you can no longer see your dream. Negative words will steal your vision. Are you going to let “words” steal your dream?
4. What action will you take next?
Did you know we kill our dreams with inaction? When you don’t make any steps, even baby ones, towards the dream, you have sentenced it to death. The best way to revive your dream is to take some action. Never stop believing your dream is possible,. As long as you are taking steps towards it, it is! Don’t put a time frame on it. Just continue to step towards it and things will start to happen. Start with one small step, then another. Even baby steps, when taken consistently, will get you to the finish line.
I challenge you to dust off your old dream and give it new life. Whether you use the questions above or vision cast – let yourself dream again. My dream is to promote to Senior Director with Thirty One and be a member of the Gives Council. TWO BIG dreams which are really scary but I’m not letting go of them this time.
Share your BIG scary dream with us! Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!
How do you feel when you hit a goal? Maybe your goal weight? Maybe you ran a marathon? Maybe you hit your sales goals? Whatever it was, do you remember how you felt? The excitement of achieving something you have been working for – were you giddy with happiness, or are you like me and cry tears of joy?
Now, how did you feel working towards the goal? Frustrated? Overwhelmed?
There’s a reason why so many of us work hard in the pursuit of big bold goals – because it feels so good when we make them happen, right? The truth is BIG wins don’t happen every day. Sometimes not even every month, quarter, or year. Sometimes big dreamy goals take time, patience, and a whole lot of devotion to make happen. And it’s okay, it’s how it’s supposed to be.
But are we supposed to defer our happiness, our joy, and our contentment until those BIG dreams happen? How many of you actually celebrate or give yourself credit for the baby steps you made on the way to your BIG goal?
Most of us (me included) forget to feel proud of ourselves in the here and now – in the moment BEFORE we reach the big goal. It is important for us to allow ourselves to enjoy the moment. We can make ourselves crazy if we continue to defer our happiness until some day in the future when we make those big dreams happen.
So what if we started to obsess over our little wins instead of the big ones? What if we reconnected with the things which truly matter most in my life – the present, the here and now. When we show up each day for our work and our life while taking care of ourself, our family, and our business – these are the things which truly matter most. The big wins are then the icing on the cake. The little wins are the ones which truly shape and define a well lived successful life.
What do some of your little wins look like? Do any of these look like yours?
I paid my bills this month on time and am reducing my debt. That’s awesome.
One of my favorite customer/hostess wants to host another party. That’s amazing.
I got 8 hours of sleep every night this week! Go me.
I gave myself time and space to read an incredible book this month. Woo hoo!
I created and shared original posts on social media this month I’m proud of. I sure did.
I embraced guilt-free rest this week whenever I needed it. Yes!
So, what happens when you think about the little steps you took this week? Were you energized, excited, and aligned?
Believe it or not, when you are focused on the little wins, you are less attached to the outcome. You can feel proud of the hard work and devotion it took to make the BIG dreams happen without diminishing what it took to make the little, everyday wins happen too.
I’m challenging you to obsess about your little wins instead of the big ones.
What are five things you’re really proud of this week? No matter what they are, embrace the positive feelings about the little wins. Enjoy the feelings as you celebrate showing up each day and giving your life everything you’ve got. Because it’s what really matters in the end.
Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!