Are You Spinning Your Wheels?

Throwback Thursday is when I look back on past posts, a time for reflection.  A time to see how far I have come (or where I am stuck).

After working with the AMAZING Britt Bolnick owner of In Arms Coaching, I have learned how important reflection is.  When I first met Britt, I connected with her.  I could relate to her struggles as a single mom since I was one.  I was in awe of how she used those struggles to build an amazing coaching career helping other women.

As a “bag” lady, I see everyone as a customer/ client. I mean who doesn’t need a bag, right? From purses to totes to thermals, we have them all at Thirty One.  As Thirty One returns to their “gifts” roots, the customers change a little bit. I know my customers have been buying gifts all along but now we have a broader base of products and with it comes a broader base of customers. I don’t want to leave any customers behind.

So, are you wondering who your customers/clients are?  Are you struggling to figure out how to get the “right” ones?  Here are some questions from one of Britt’s virtual retreats which might help you figure out your next steps:

1. What isn’t working for you in your business right now?

Think about it.  Put it on paper.  I don’t mean just “no one wants to party”, I mean be specific.  What isn’t working for you?  Not enough time to work your business?  Not enough new customers?  No time to schedule parties?  For me, what isn’t working is the lack of a full calendar for the summer months along with a steady flow of new customers.

2. What do you want SO badly for your business or work you’re NO LONGER willing to settle for NOT having it?

We all talk about our “why”, and for some it is stronger than others so it keeps them motivated.  For others, a vision board helps to keep them focused.  Make a list of the things you want in your business – just keep writing, let the feelings pour out.  When all is said and done, you can sum it up in a sentence or two.  For me, it is an action plan for consistent sales, parties which will bring me new recruits and expand my business.

3. What would the ripple effect be OF you having it? How would it affect your life, relationships, even your health?

It is like Andy Andrews says in “The Butterfly Effect”, one action creates a ripple effect changing not only your life but the life of others.  So, for me the ripple effect would be: If I grow my business with an increase in sales and recruits, it would mean a higher consistent paycheck every month. This would allow me to pay off my credit card debt.  Paying off my credit card debt would allow me the freedom from stress. Less stress would allow me to smile more which would make hubby happy which would help our relationship/ marriage.  In addition, less stress would allow me to focus more on maintaining my goal weight which would make me feel better.  Less stress would also help to keep health issues in check.  Expanding my business would allow me to give back to the community (it is about what the money can do).  Therefore, an expanded business = happy, healthy & wealthy Hope.

What is your ripple effect?

I love my Thirty One business. I love it pays my bills every month. I love I get to meet new people and share the gift of Thirty One with them. I am transparent with you when I am struggle because having your own business whether a storefront or direct sales isn’t always rainbows and sunshine. There is some rain along the way. You need to be willing to work past them to move forward.

What about you? How would you answer these questions? Be truthful with yourself. You know what isn’t working in your business. Own it so you can figure out the best way to move past it. I would love to hear from you.

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!

Are You Taking Risks?

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Risk is defined “as exposing (someone or something valued) to danger, harm, or loss.”  Honestly, how many of us actually take risks?  The truth is we take some risk every day – we drive a car with only a yellow line separating us from the other car, we fly in planes, and I am sure the list could go on.  Most of us don’t think of these things as risks, right?

Often, my fear of failing stops me from stepping out into uncharted territory. Although I believe that you learn from your mistakes, I am often hesitant to walk on a path that is less traveled. Taking a risk can sometimes mean just stepping out of your comfort zone.

I talk a lot about stepping out of your comfort zone . I believe that many of us don’t and as a result, we are kept from reaching our full potential and our goals in life and in business.  So whether you are jumping into a new job, a new relationship, a new business or anything else that takes you out of your comfort zone, here are some tips to determine if you should take a risk or not:

  • Trust yourself. When you take a risk, you need to trust that you have the skills to reach your ultimate goal. If you lack self-confidence, the first step is identifying your weakness.  Then seek out others who can help you through the struggles.
  • Think creatively.  Being unique is wonderful.  Standing out or above the crowd allows us to shine.  Remember that when you step outside of the box, you don’t want to loose sight of your vision/goal.  You can be creative while still  using some of the tried and true ideas that have helped others be successful.
  • Know your field and product/service.  Love what you do and the rest is easy.  I have taken risks many times when it came to new jobs.  The secret to all of them was that I loved what I did.  I learned everything I could so that I could be an expert in that particular area.  If you are joining a direct sales company,  LOVE their products. Learn from those who have gone before you.  Take classes. Read books.  Network with others in your field and out of your field.

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  • Implement a support system and seek expert advice. When I stepped out of my comfort zone to join a direct sales company, I found an AMAZING support system in my upline and other Thirty One sisters. Find a network of professionals who you trust that can guide you in those areas where you are weak. Here are a few that have helped me:  Entrepreneurial Think Tank for Women, The Desiree Wolfe, Eryka Peskin, JulieAnn Jones, Britt Bolnick and the list goes on personally and professionally.

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  • Show courage. Sometimes it just comes down to – Do I have the courage to step out of my comfort zone and take a RISK. “By showing courage, you are also showing good leadership skills” – I never really thought about that.
    Never give up. Stepped out and it didn’t work out?  Maybe you didn’t get the response you were looking for?  Maybe you it didn’t turn out like you planned? Okay – build a bridge and get over it.  Learn from this and move on.
  • Don’t listen to negatives.  Ignore Negative Nellie.  Stop talking to her since those negative thoughts will undermine your self-confidence. If she has taken up residence in your head – close the door on her and find some positive affirmations to keep the door locked. This is sometimes our biggest hurdle.

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Risk means there is a potential for loss. It means that we are stepping out of our comfort zone and walking in FAITH. If the risk is God-centered, then he will lead us through it. Even if it is not a success or is a flat out FAIL, there is a lesson that can be learned. Step out of your comfort zone, take a risk and see where it leads.  What will you do today to step out of YOUR comfort zone?

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!

Are You a Bull Dog in the Rain?

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Interesting, right? A Thirty One coach told the story about her bull dog sitting in the rain. The bull dog went out in the rain and proceeded to sit at the end of the walkway in a downpour. Alright, some dogs may like the rain but this bull dog, sat looking up at the sky and because of their facial structure, the water dripped down his throat and made him gag. Did he stop looking up at the sky to avoid the rain? NO! Even when tempted with treats, food and his favorite toy – he continued to sit looking at the sky, gagging as a result of the rain running down his throat. When did he stop and come in – when HE was ready. No amount of coaching or incentives could change his mind until HE was ready.

So what does this have to do with anything?  Whether you are a mom with young kids at home or are in direct sales with a growing, we can all learn a lesson from the bull dog.

Kids and our teams are like bull dogs. No matter how much we try to inspire them or  motivate them, it is something that happens on the inside.  As leaders, we need to lead by example.  No one person is BORN into leadership. Let me tell you that I was glad to hear that because I never really thought of myself as a leader.  There are traits that are common to ALL leaders and if you have at least one or two of these traits – YOU are leadership material. This was an AHA moment for me. Cast those doubts aside and let’s see if you have any of these traits:

  • Do you share the vision? Can you share the vision of the company, your upline and your personal vision?
  • Do you see the potential in others? Are you always looking for the positives in others? Do you encourage them?
  • Are you humble in whatever role you have?
  • Do you DREAM BIG knowing that no idea is crazy?
  • Do you believe in yourself?

Here is one more way to visualize yourself as a leader – consider the people who have made a positive impact on your life, who have inspired you, who have become a mentor for you. Write them down along with three of their personality traits. What are some of the common traits that they had – kind, strong, independent, positive attitude. So, as I look to grow my team this year wider as well as deeper, I am going to look at my ENTIRE team to see if I am missing any potential leaders.

 “Failure is an event not a person and can change at any moment”.

So, TRUST your instincts, TAME your inner bulldog and DISCOVER the leader in you! So, who is ready to GROW into leadership? Remember that the greatest leaders seek the advice of others and don’t have to have all of the answers!

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!

A Gratitude Walk

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This morning I woke up in my own bed filled with gratitude.  There are days when the MS effects me not only physically but mentally and emotionally.  On those days, I struggle to see the good in anything in my life.  This past weekend, I have had the pleasure of connecting with some amazing women.  I have been able to see the blessings in my life.  Yes, even the health struggles.

I focused on the things I love about my business but most of all what I love about my life.  The inner gremlins that haunt me and want to plunge me into depression were squashed.  I was inspired by Andy Andrews and the other speakers.  I was reminded that I have been given a gift and it needs to be shared.

I was reminded about a book I hare skimmed form Zig Ziglar entitled A View From the Top.  I remembered my purpose of “bringing hope and a smile to children, reminding them that they are special and worthy”.  I decided to start every morning along with a devotions with a gratitude list – or at least 5 things I am grateful for that day.  it helps me to foster a deep sense of happiness, and this gratitude is the missing ingredient to mine (and most people’s) success.

Not sure where to start, here are some things that I am grateful for TODAY.  Don’t just read them, feel them.  Find the ones that resonate with you…

1. The breath in your lungs

2. Your hard-working heart

3. The food that fuels your experience

4. The ever-present opportunity to make better decisions than your last

5. The freedom to make unlimited mistakes on your road to self-improvement

6. The natural talents you were born to share

7. The challenges that allow you to grow

8. The accomplishments that have improved your life

9. The mother and father who gave you life

10. Warm sun on your skin

11. The beauty and life in nature

12. The senses that allow you to experience beauty

13. Health in any amount

14. The arms, legs, feet, and hands that give you freedom of movement

15. The favorite song that keeps you going when you feel like giving up

16. The ability to learn from the mistakes and achievements of others

17. The help that is always there when you ask for it

18. The roof over your head

19. The inspiration that sweeps you out of your comfort zone

20. The people who’ve dedicated their lives to inspiring others

21. The ability to connect with family and friends anywhere in the world (Skype)

22. The fresh start you’re given every day

23. The pain that reminds you of the need to change

24. Our dreams

25. Electricity

26. All of the amazing teachers who helped you reach your potential

27. Each failure that led to your achievements, and everyone who encouraged you to keep going

28. The random smile that got you through your last impossible day

29. That one cashier who you can always count on to brighten your day

30. The one friend you’ve been able to count on through every stage in your life—even if that friend is you

31. Your favorite spot to recharge when you’re overwhelmed

32. That one mule of a person who challenges you to be kind when it’s most difficult

33. The special people who filled spots where parents or grandparents were missing

34. The spiritual growth you’ve accomplished (give yourself some credit!)

35. All the quotes that inspire you

36. The doors that closed on opportunities you wanted but didn’t need

37. The windows that opened when you almost gave up hope

38. The hot showers that completely change your perspective on life

39. Making good news for others to hear

40. A really good cry

41. Your favorite things

42. The ridiculous people you can always count on for a belly laugh

43. Little munchkins who you can never be with quite enough

44. The bad examples who illuminated the paths you shouldn’t take

45. The movies, music, art, celebrations, and people that remind you just how good it is to be human

46. The you from yesterday you get to compete with today

47. Refreshing walks that calm your mind and ease your spirit

48. The ability to change your whole life with one good decision

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What are you grateful for today?  Share it with us.  Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!

Be More Fearless in Life

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FEAR!  We all have it.  For some it is greater than others.  For some, they simple hesitate for a moment and then keep moving forward.  For others, FEAR paralyzes them and they STOP dead in their tracks.  Which one are you when FEAR comes knocking?

Honestly, it almost depends on my mental state at the time as to which reaction I will have.  When I entered rehab to overcome my addiction, I was scared shitless!  I overcame the FEAR because the other option was even scarier.  When I first started blogging, I was afraid.  But I rose to the challenge and conquered the FEAR.  Health challenges have created a FEAR yet I continue to go to the doctor’s seeking answers, not knowing is not an option.  When it comes to my business, FEAR can paralyze me.  When it comes to FEAR in my personal life – YUP, FEAR paralyzes me (sometimes).

The result of letting FEAR control your life leaves us missing out on learning and growing as a person.  We miss out on meeting and building relationships with fabulous new people.  We miss out on being successful (whatever that means to you) in business and in life.

Here is how I try to live to avoid the FEAR inner gremlin:

COMFORT ZONES

We all have them.  We are the happiest when we “live” within the walls of them. The truth is that they hold us back. When we are in one,  our fears are always in front of us.  No matter what your fear is: flying, awkward silences (I HATE these), or being judged by others – you are being held back from incredible opportunities. What is the worse that could happen if you said YES to more to things and stepped out of your comfort zone?

4586616dc1d540af9ec2c19a1fb4382dYou will soon realize that the more you say yes, the easier it becomes.  You become willing to step just a little further outside of your comfort zone each time.  Believe me, your confidence will GROW!

INNER GREMLINS

I have heard for years “You are your own worst enemy” and I never really understood it.  Then I met my Abundance Coach and Fierce Cheerleader, Eryka Peskin.  It was then that I was introduced to my inner gremlins.  An AHA moment.  It was then that I learned that my biggest enemy lived inside of me!  It was the only one who doubted me.  We all have inner gremlins within us who tell us we can’t and the difference is our response.  Do you have “what if’s”?  Take the FEAR scenario and play it out on paper or in your head.  Is the end result really that bad?

PEOPLE WILL JUDGE YOU

We’ve all been judged our entire lives and there is absolutely nothing we can do about it!  As much as we hate to admit it, we have judged others too –  it is a fact of life.  It is a waste of valuable energy that could be better spent elsewhere.  Wouldn’t it be better if we spent our time and energy investing in building a relationship with those who took the time to get to know us, to befriend us and to be there for us?

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YOU DON’T WANT TO PLEASE EVERYONE

Are you a people pleaser?  Yup, that was (okay sometimes is) me!  If you are being yourself, you are going to piss someone off at some point and there is absolutely nothing that you can do about it. Opinions and beliefs differ from person to person, so you can be sure someone won’t agree with you.

“I can’t tell you the key to success but the key to failure is trying to please everyone.”

BE PROUD OF YOURSELF

You have heard all of the woulda, shoulda and coulda from a world that is constantly telling us who we should or shouldn’t be. Don’t be arrogant by sharing your accomplishments.  Don’t put yourself down because it makes us insecure. Don’t be too positive because that is setting unrealistic expectations.  Don’t be too negative because no one wants to be around you. We simply cannot win!  What if you were just yourself?  The good, the bad and the ugly!  We would love ourselves more and the Law of Attraction would find us others that love us too, just the way we are.

Who is ready to CRUSH your FEARS and get more out of life?

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!