Are You a Bull Dog in the Rain?

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Interesting, right? A Thirty One coach told the story about her bull dog sitting in the rain. The bull dog went out in the rain and proceeded to sit at the end of the walkway in a downpour. Alright, some dogs may like the rain but this bull dog, sat looking up at the sky and because of their facial structure, the water dripped down his throat and made him gag. Did he stop looking up at the sky to avoid the rain? NO! Even when tempted with treats, food and his favorite toy – he continued to sit looking at the sky, gagging as a result of the rain running down his throat. When did he stop and come in – when HE was ready. No amount of coaching or incentives could change his mind until HE was ready.

So what does this have to do with anything?  Whether you are a mom with young kids at home or are in direct sales with a growing, we can all learn a lesson from the bull dog.

Kids and our teams are like bull dogs. No matter how much we try to inspire them or  motivate them, it is something that happens on the inside.  As leaders, we need to lead by example.  No one person is BORN into leadership. Let me tell you that I was glad to hear that because I never really thought of myself as a leader.  There are traits that are common to ALL leaders and if you have at least one or two of these traits – YOU are leadership material. This was an AHA moment for me. Cast those doubts aside and let’s see if you have any of these traits:

  • Do you share the vision? Can you share the vision of the company, your upline and your personal vision?
  • Do you see the potential in others? Are you always looking for the positives in others? Do you encourage them?
  • Are you humble in whatever role you have?
  • Do you DREAM BIG knowing that no idea is crazy?
  • Do you believe in yourself?

Here is one more way to visualize yourself as a leader – consider the people who have made a positive impact on your life, who have inspired you, who have become a mentor for you. Write them down along with three of their personality traits. What are some of the common traits that they had – kind, strong, independent, positive attitude. So, as I look to grow my team this year wider as well as deeper, I am going to look at my ENTIRE team to see if I am missing any potential leaders.

 “Failure is an event not a person and can change at any moment”.

So, TRUST your instincts, TAME your inner bulldog and DISCOVER the leader in you! So, who is ready to GROW into leadership? Remember that the greatest leaders seek the advice of others and don’t have to have all of the answers!

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!

A Gratitude Walk

3352c1c3ef514977a2d28e4f856f525d“Gratitude is a currency that we can mint for ourselves, and spend without fear of bankruptcy.” Fred De Witt Van Amburgh

This morning I woke up in my own bed filled with gratitude.  There are days when the MS effects me not only physically but mentally and emotionally.  On those days, I struggle to see the good in anything in my life.  This past weekend, I have had the pleasure of connecting with some amazing women.  I have been able to see the blessings in my life.  Yes, even the health struggles.

I focused on the things I love about my business but most of all what I love about my life.  The inner gremlins that haunt me and want to plunge me into depression were squashed.  I was inspired by Andy Andrews and the other speakers.  I was reminded that I have been given a gift and it needs to be shared.

I was reminded about a book I hare skimmed form Zig Ziglar entitled A View From the Top.  I remembered my purpose of “bringing hope and a smile to children, reminding them that they are special and worthy”.  I decided to start every morning along with a devotions with a gratitude list – or at least 5 things I am grateful for that day.  it helps me to foster a deep sense of happiness, and this gratitude is the missing ingredient to mine (and most people’s) success.

Not sure where to start, here are some things that I am grateful for TODAY.  Don’t just read them, feel them.  Find the ones that resonate with you…

1. The breath in your lungs

2. Your hard-working heart

3. The food that fuels your experience

4. The ever-present opportunity to make better decisions than your last

5. The freedom to make unlimited mistakes on your road to self-improvement

6. The natural talents you were born to share

7. The challenges that allow you to grow

8. The accomplishments that have improved your life

9. The mother and father who gave you life

10. Warm sun on your skin

11. The beauty and life in nature

12. The senses that allow you to experience beauty

13. Health in any amount

14. The arms, legs, feet, and hands that give you freedom of movement

15. The favorite song that keeps you going when you feel like giving up

16. The ability to learn from the mistakes and achievements of others

17. The help that is always there when you ask for it

18. The roof over your head

19. The inspiration that sweeps you out of your comfort zone

20. The people who’ve dedicated their lives to inspiring others

21. The ability to connect with family and friends anywhere in the world (Skype)

22. The fresh start you’re given every day

23. The pain that reminds you of the need to change

24. Our dreams

25. Electricity

26. All of the amazing teachers who helped you reach your potential

27. Each failure that led to your achievements, and everyone who encouraged you to keep going

28. The random smile that got you through your last impossible day

29. That one cashier who you can always count on to brighten your day

30. The one friend you’ve been able to count on through every stage in your life—even if that friend is you

31. Your favorite spot to recharge when you’re overwhelmed

32. That one mule of a person who challenges you to be kind when it’s most difficult

33. The special people who filled spots where parents or grandparents were missing

34. The spiritual growth you’ve accomplished (give yourself some credit!)

35. All the quotes that inspire you

36. The doors that closed on opportunities you wanted but didn’t need

37. The windows that opened when you almost gave up hope

38. The hot showers that completely change your perspective on life

39. Making good news for others to hear

40. A really good cry

41. Your favorite things

42. The ridiculous people you can always count on for a belly laugh

43. Little munchkins who you can never be with quite enough

44. The bad examples who illuminated the paths you shouldn’t take

45. The movies, music, art, celebrations, and people that remind you just how good it is to be human

46. The you from yesterday you get to compete with today

47. Refreshing walks that calm your mind and ease your spirit

48. The ability to change your whole life with one good decision

49. The option to be grateful no matter where you are or what you’re experiencingBe-grateful

What are you grateful for today?  Share it with us.  Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!

Be More Fearless in Life

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FEAR!  We all have it.  For some it is greater than others.  For some, they simple hesitate for a moment and then keep moving forward.  For others, FEAR paralyzes them and they STOP dead in their tracks.  Which one are you when FEAR comes knocking?

Honestly, it almost depends on my mental state at the time as to which reaction I will have.  When I entered rehab to overcome my addiction, I was scared shitless!  I overcame the FEAR because the other option was even scarier.  When I first started blogging, I was afraid.  But I rose to the challenge and conquered the FEAR.  Health challenges have created a FEAR yet I continue to go to the doctor’s seeking answers, not knowing is not an option.  When it comes to my business, FEAR can paralyze me.  When it comes to FEAR in my personal life – YUP, FEAR paralyzes me (sometimes).

The result of letting FEAR control your life leaves us missing out on learning and growing as a person.  We miss out on meeting and building relationships with fabulous new people.  We miss out on being successful (whatever that means to you) in business and in life.

Here is how I try to live to avoid the FEAR inner gremlin:

COMFORT ZONES

We all have them.  We are the happiest when we “live” within the walls of them. The truth is that they hold us back. When we are in one,  our fears are always in front of us.  No matter what your fear is: flying, awkward silences (I HATE these), or being judged by others – you are being held back from incredible opportunities. What is the worse that could happen if you said YES to more to things and stepped out of your comfort zone?

4586616dc1d540af9ec2c19a1fb4382dYou will soon realize that the more you say yes, the easier it becomes.  You become willing to step just a little further outside of your comfort zone each time.  Believe me, your confidence will GROW!

INNER GREMLINS

I have heard for years “You are your own worst enemy” and I never really understood it.  Then I met my Abundance Coach and Fierce Cheerleader, Eryka Peskin.  It was then that I was introduced to my inner gremlins.  An AHA moment.  It was then that I learned that my biggest enemy lived inside of me!  It was the only one who doubted me.  We all have inner gremlins within us who tell us we can’t and the difference is our response.  Do you have “what if’s”?  Take the FEAR scenario and play it out on paper or in your head.  Is the end result really that bad?

PEOPLE WILL JUDGE YOU

We’ve all been judged our entire lives and there is absolutely nothing we can do about it!  As much as we hate to admit it, we have judged others too –  it is a fact of life.  It is a waste of valuable energy that could be better spent elsewhere.  Wouldn’t it be better if we spent our time and energy investing in building a relationship with those who took the time to get to know us, to befriend us and to be there for us?

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YOU DON’T WANT TO PLEASE EVERYONE

Are you a people pleaser?  Yup, that was (okay sometimes is) me!  If you are being yourself, you are going to piss someone off at some point and there is absolutely nothing that you can do about it. Opinions and beliefs differ from person to person, so you can be sure someone won’t agree with you.

“I can’t tell you the key to success but the key to failure is trying to please everyone.”

BE PROUD OF YOURSELF

You have heard all of the woulda, shoulda and coulda from a world that is constantly telling us who we should or shouldn’t be. Don’t be arrogant by sharing your accomplishments.  Don’t put yourself down because it makes us insecure. Don’t be too positive because that is setting unrealistic expectations.  Don’t be too negative because no one wants to be around you. We simply cannot win!  What if you were just yourself?  The good, the bad and the ugly!  We would love ourselves more and the Law of Attraction would find us others that love us too, just the way we are.

Who is ready to CRUSH your FEARS and get more out of life?

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!

 

An Accountability Partner in Life And Business

 

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Happy Friday!

If you are in direct sales, you have probably heard a zillion times “get an accountability partner”.  I have to admit that I have heard it BUT the truth is I never seemed to find one.  The best intentions always led to things fizzling out.

Then I was doing some research on organizational tips and this same subject came up.  The need to have an Accountability Partner when you are cleaning or organizing.  Interesting, right?

The truth is anyone who is successful in weightless or business or in running a household, is accountable to someone.  There is no magic pill or formula that will guarantee success. There is absolutely no substitute for hard work and determination.

The one thing that will make a HUGE difference in you sticking with a plan and working towards your goal is accountability. Being accountable to someone as well as getting support from others is one of the most effective things you can do to ensure success. You don’t have to do this alone!

These tips may need to be tweaked just a little if you are applying them to your life or your organizational project or your business but you get the general idea, right?

1. Find someone with similar goals but in a different industry.  Or a different company if you’re in Direct Sales.

2. Pair up with someone who has similar values and style.

3. Decide what you want/need in a partner. Do you want someone that just emails once a week asking how it’s going? Or do you want to have a set phone date with a plan?  Do you need to have frequent texts back and forth?

4. Find someone with a similar schedule. If you’re not a morning person but your buddy it is night person it could be hard to find a convenient time to chat.

I can usually find someone BUT I always get stuck on the next step.

1. Tell them your current goal or project that you are looking to achieve or finish.   Seems obvious but they can’t help you if you don’t tell them

2. Both buddies need to set goals and a completion date.

I am a giver by nature so once I know my partner’s needs, I am their cheerleader.  I will do everything I can to help them succeed.  On the other hand, I am not so good at receiving so getting support and encouragement or the occasional kick in the butt can be a struggle!

Some would say that I haven’t found the right person.  Others would say, I’m not passionate enough about my goal.  They could both be right.  It could be the FEAR of letting the other person down by not giving them the support that they need to meet their goals.

The truth is that when I was truly accountable in my weightless journey to others, I lost 100+ pounds.  Once the accountability was gone, so was the motivation.  No, I haven’t gained back the weight so I guess there is still some motivation.

What is your goal – is it to be more organized or grow your business or lose weight? Maybe the difference between your success and your failure is having an accountability partner… what do you think?  Share your thoughts OR let us know if you are looking for an accountability party, maybe there is another reader out there who would love to team up with you.

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Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!

Are You BRAVE

What do you think of when you think of someone who is brave?  Do you have visions of our military across the world who support our freedom?  Do you think of those fighting terminal illnesses?  Do you think of those who seem to never get a break and are always struggling?  Do you think of YOURSELF?

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Would you consider yourself brave?  Have you overcome a fear and now feel confident with a purpose and fulfillment in your life?  If you so, guess what YOU are BRAVE!!

Ultimately being brave comes from a place of courage and self discovery.  So if you are wondering how you can become BRAVE in your business or in your personal life, here are some things that might help you on this journey:

Be Honest With Yourself About Your Big Dreams:   Do you have a BIG dream?  Do you have goals that seem so scary and out of reach that you are afraid to say them out loud?  Do you hide them from others because they may think they are silly or unattainable?

Did you know that once we speak them, we’re making space for the possibility that we might fail. Yes, I said might fail.  It is a 50/50 shot but that is OKAY!  By having the courage to be honest with ourselves about what it is we really want to do and achieve, we allow ourselves to explore whether it’s possible and what the next steps forward are for us to take.  If you have a big dream or goal that you’ve been keeping quiet and tucked away because you’re afraid you’re not good enough, that it’s not possible, or that there just isn’t enough hours in the day to make it happen, try saying it out loud and exploring realistically how you can start working towards it.

Take Small Steps:  Don’t just focus on the BIG dream, work on small pieces that will help you reach that dream.  Let the BIG dream be your motivation to keep moving forward as you take small steps forward.  Focus on quality over quantity.  If you are in direct sales, focus on the basics of book, sell and recruit.  Be consistent with your hostess coaching and with your follow-up.  Be consistent each week with your efforts.  Set small obtainable goals – CELEBRATE as you reach each milestone. REWARD yourself for your accomplishments, big or small.  Each small step gets you a little closer to your bigger goal and your ultimate dream.

Commit To A Bigger Project: When you start to feel a little uninspired, or like you’ve hit a wall and you’re aching for a new challenge – challenge yourself.  Team up with a friend or colleague or challenge your team.  Whether it’s stepping out of your comfort zone, a new party format, a booking blitz, moving to a new area, picking up the phone, a vendor event or accepting a challenge, taking a leap into a brand new adventure is enough to scare even the boldest of us. Being brave and taking that leap is a great way to really feel fulfilled and take a leap towards you BIG DREAM!

My challenge for you this week is to be brave. Even with the possibility of failure, judgement, and criticism, let this be the week we choose courage and reaching for your our DREAM.

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!