How many of you are paralyzed by perfection? The perfect weight? The perfect size? The perfect business? The perfect house? Being the perfect mom? I have been there and some days still am….
Here is a post I saw which made me realize on most days despite my best efforts, I am “stuck” worrying about perfection….
I would tell you I wasn’t staring at him, but I’d be lying. He immediately caught my attention as he wheeled himself down the aisle. Stopping beside me, he said, “Hello.” I couldn’t take my eyes off of him.
He lifted himself up in his wheelchair. Unabashed, he balanced on his knees where his lower legs used to be. Unable to move, I watched him stretch, reaching for something on the store’s upper shelf.
What if he fell?
He wobbled as he grabbed his item, and then sat back down in his chair. Before I could offer to help, he’d completed his task. He nodded at me and continued his shopping.
I stood there immobilized by my thoughts. What empowered him to be so, whole?
His exterior shell broken, but inside—something beautifully different.
WOW! This made me realize just how crippled I am on a daily basis. I battle the inner gremlins of perfection which are often paired with the comparison game gremlins. Yes, they love to tag team me until I am left battered and bruised. On the outside, things look great because I have reached some milestones in my life….
- Almost 26 years clean from my drug addiction
- Lost 120 pounds
- CEO of my own business which pays my bills
- A loving husband and supportive family
Yes, I could go on but the gremlins are having a field day today. What about you, could you list some major milestones in your life? Do you focus on them or do you focus on your failed attempts at perfection?
Does your idea of perfection cripple you into believing everything you do has to be impeccable? Does your worth ride on your success? Think about the gentleman described above…. He elevated his viewpoint, lived outside the lines, and appeared content—all signs of living imperfectly. Definitely not someone who is handicapped, right?
Here are three ways to become unparalyzed by perfection:
#1 Straighten Up
Believe it or not, standing up straight and changing our body alignment, can make a difference. How often when we fail at perfectionism do we feel unworthy? As a result, we walk hunched over or eyes cast to the ground, not enjoying the world around us.
How long have you been bound by perfectionism? It’s time to straighten up! It is time to change your perspective. For some, it may be with positive mantras which will change your mindset while for others it may be seek their Higher Power to bless and release those fears.
#2 Live Outside the Lines
Now, you are standing up straight, it is time to do step out of your comfort zone—live outside the lines. I know this one can be tough especially when those gremlins are in the midst of a battle. It doesn’t have to be something HUGE, just something simple. How about:
~Driving with the windows down and let your hair get incredibly messy. Toss the hair tie which will keep your hair neat.
~Get a cake and take a spoonful right from the center. Go ahead, eat from the middle.
~Color outside the lines in a coloring book—make the tree trunk bright orange, the leaves purple, and paint the sky green instead of blue.
“You have to color outside the lines once in a while if you want to make it…” Albert Einstein
Just do something to push yourself outside the lines of perfection which keep you restrained.
#3 Love your life
Make a choice to love your life. Despite whatever challenges you may have, proclaim contentment. Remember the man I shared the story about, despite being a differently-abled person, he oozed contentment, even though he had every right to feel otherwise. You could tell he made a choice to love his life.
Perfection doesn’t validate us, it makes us invalid.
Will you challenge yourself in a new way? Will you claim to love your life so you are unconfined from the handicap of perfectionism? Share your story with us.
Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!