Are You Spinning Your Wheels?

Throwback Thursday is when I look back on past posts, a time for reflection.  A time to see how far I have come (or where I am stuck).

After working with the AMAZING Britt Bolnick owner of In Arms Coaching, I have learned how important reflection is.  When I first met Britt, I connected with her.  I could relate to her struggles as a single mom since I was one.  I was in awe of how she used those struggles to build an amazing coaching career helping other women.

As a “bag” lady, I see everyone as a customer/ client. I mean who doesn’t need a bag, right? From purses to totes to thermals, we have them all at Thirty One.  As Thirty One returns to their “gifts” roots, the customers change a little bit. I know my customers have been buying gifts all along but now we have a broader base of products and with it comes a broader base of customers. I don’t want to leave any customers behind.

So, are you wondering who your customers/clients are?  Are you struggling to figure out how to get the “right” ones?  Here are some questions from one of Britt’s virtual retreats which might help you figure out your next steps:

1. What isn’t working for you in your business right now?

Think about it.  Put it on paper.  I don’t mean just “no one wants to party”, I mean be specific.  What isn’t working for you?  Not enough time to work your business?  Not enough new customers?  No time to schedule parties?  For me, what isn’t working is the lack of a full calendar for the summer months along with a steady flow of new customers.

2. What do you want SO badly for your business or work you’re NO LONGER willing to settle for NOT having it?

We all talk about our “why”, and for some it is stronger than others so it keeps them motivated.  For others, a vision board helps to keep them focused.  Make a list of the things you want in your business – just keep writing, let the feelings pour out.  When all is said and done, you can sum it up in a sentence or two.  For me, it is an action plan for consistent sales, parties which will bring me new recruits and expand my business.

3. What would the ripple effect be OF you having it? How would it affect your life, relationships, even your health?

It is like Andy Andrews says in “The Butterfly Effect”, one action creates a ripple effect changing not only your life but the life of others.  So, for me the ripple effect would be: If I grow my business with an increase in sales and recruits, it would mean a higher consistent paycheck every month. This would allow me to pay off my credit card debt.  Paying off my credit card debt would allow me the freedom from stress. Less stress would allow me to smile more which would make hubby happy which would help our relationship/ marriage.  In addition, less stress would allow me to focus more on maintaining my goal weight which would make me feel better.  Less stress would also help to keep health issues in check.  Expanding my business would allow me to give back to the community (it is about what the money can do).  Therefore, an expanded business = happy, healthy & wealthy Hope.

What is your ripple effect?

I love my Thirty One business. I love it pays my bills every month. I love I get to meet new people and share the gift of Thirty One with them. I am transparent with you when I am struggle because having your own business whether a storefront or direct sales isn’t always rainbows and sunshine. There is some rain along the way. You need to be willing to work past them to move forward.

What about you? How would you answer these questions? Be truthful with yourself. You know what isn’t working in your business. Own it so you can figure out the best way to move past it. I would love to hear from you.

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!

Fact or Fiction?

Today is weigh in… yes, I am still on the roller coaster weight loss journey.  I have been blessed with a loss every week since I started back to Weight Watchers so I am praying for another one today.  Some weeks are just a little (.2 pounds = a stick of better, right?) and then some weeks it is over 1 pound.  Would I like to see the rest of the 19 pounds (to goal) go away quickly – YES!  But the truth is, it isn’t going to happen quickly and I need to practice patience.  Definitely not a strong point of mine.

I came across an article by Jena Pincott in the Huffington Post with some good tips if you are experiencing some challenges on your weight loss journey.

Let’s see what you think…

  • Does your digital scale have ONE or TWO decimal places on it?  According to a study by the University Of Utah, when participants received a weight range instead of an actual number – they lost up to 4 pounds in just 3 weeks.  Exact number participants actually gained up to a pound on an average.  Okay, so now it is the scale’s fault. (I like the fact I can blame it on the scale.. LOL)  The fuzzier the feedback, the more room to interpret the information.  The lesson: If you weigh yourself daily, even normal fluctuations could throw you off. Instead, get on the scale weekly and use a range as a goal (“I’d like to lose 5 to 10 pounds this year”).
  • The wrong milk?  Really! A study led by Mark DeBoer, MD, a pediatric endocrinologist at the University of Virginia, found children who drank skim or 1 percent milk gained more weight than those who drank 2 percent or whole (full-fat) milk. He points out the same link — fattier milk, lower body-mass index — has also emerged in large, long-term studies on adults.) DeBoer’s theory is milk fat, compared with other calorie sources, makes us feel fuller, longer — so we consume fewer calories overall.  The lesson: If you’re a milk drinker, try whole or 2 percent in lieu of reduced-fat milk. A large Swedish study found among normal-weight women, those who drank one or more cups a day of whole milk had a significantly lower chance of gaining weight than those who drank reduced-fat milk.  Okay, so I don’t drink milk (no dairy with the current restrictions) and I use almond milk creamer in my coffee – can I blame that?
  • You Eat At A Crowded Table – This isn’t my problem since it is only Rob and I for dinner or I am eating by myself.
    The lesson: “Sit next to slow eaters, they can help you pace your eating, not the speed eaters who eat like they grew up in a family of 12.”
  • Bulk Shopping:
    This used to be my problem but now at the end of a week, hubby always says the fridge looks empty and it is.  The pantry is stocked but I moved it to the utility room in the basement so I don’t see everything at once.  I go to it when I need stuff for dinner.  Looking at ready-to-eat multipacks makes you overindulge. Stockpiled food is consumed twice as fast as other food in the house.  The problem is simple: Bulky packages consume too much kitchen real estate; we see them every time we open the cupboard, for instance. Visibility translates into impulsivity, and, before we know it, we’re eating more than we intended. The lesson: Out of sight, out of mind. Move multi-unit packs of food out of the kitchen and into the basement, freezer, underground bunker…wherever clusters of bright labels won’t catch your eye.

The truth is I have been sticking with what works – measuring everything and tracking. I’m afraid not to because it is when I stopped the pounds slowly crept on.   Yes, I have issues IBS as a result of the MS.  Yes, I tend to retain fluid for some unknown reason.  I have been pushing myself with my Fit Bit to walk at least 5,000 steps a day.  Not the ideal for weight loss but so far it is all I can manage.

What will you blame for not losing or maintaining your ideal weight?   The miserable winter weather? What is your excuses to justify your yo-yo scale.

I would love to hear what you have to say about all of this.. Share your thought.

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!

Throwback Thursday – I’d Be Happy If…

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UGH!  I cringe every time I see this picture but it is a constant reminder for me. Yes, it is me at a hefty 295 pounds with my awesome daughter.  This is definitely a #throwback.

This was a period of time in my life when Negative Nellie and Doubtful Debbie were playing along side me.  My mantra then was always “I will be happy when…..” and as a result I sometimes missed out on things.

Have you every said or even thought these words? Have you started a sentence with “when I am…., I will be happy”? I will be honest and say there are still some days when those thoughts knock on my door.

On my weight loss journey to goal weight, my favorite line was “I’ll be happy when I reach goal weight”.   Guess what?  I reached goal weight and there was no magic wand to make me happy.  When fear and doubt creep into my business, I say “I’ll be happy to make my minimum goal”. OH NO!!!mrbill1

The Universe brings us what we put out there.  Fear and doubt brings more fear and doubt.  The statement “I’d be happy if ….” takes our focus off the blessings we already have and those waiting for us.  We miss out on the moment and no matter what you may think – good, bad or otherwise – the moment is a blessing.

What if you were to change this statement to “I’m thankful for…..”?  Sometimes in the dark it is hard to see the blessings.  Maybe you are struggling with finances, a shaky marriage, addiction, homelessness or (fill in the blank).  There is blessings in them.  Maybe it is a stranger who smiles at you or pays you a compliment.  Maybe it is a friend who drops by unannounced with groceries.  Maybe it is a song on the radio which evokes a pleasant memory.  Being thankful for the smallest thing truly will make a difference in your life.

So, today let’s list what we are thankful for this week. This is my list from 2014 (since this is #TBT) I am thankful this week for:

  • A relationship with God that gives me comfort when I struggle
  • A loving husband who supports me no matter what
  • A loving family who accepts me for who I am along with all of my faults
  • Feeling a little bit better and learning how to manage my IBS
  • Not re-injurying my back during the mini storm last Monday
  • A business that allows me the flexibility to make my own schedule
  • A supportive network (ETTM) of fellow solo-preneurs and network marketers
  • A full March calendar that allows me to share Thirty One with friends and family
  • Only nudging the scale up (1 lb) a little this week. Yes, I would love a loss but as I change my eating habits there will be some changes in my weight. Building a bridge and getting over it!
  • Receiving an unexpected refund check when the checkbook was getting a little low

As I look back and reflect on this past week, here is what I am thankful for now:

  • A relationship with God which comforts me when I struggle (never changes)
  • A loving husband who supports me no matter what (my rock)
  • A loving family who accepts me for who I am along with all of my faults
  • Learning to manage my MS
  • A business which allows me the flexibility to make my own schedule
  • Grateful the scale keeps going down every week
  • A support network who continue to help me stay accountable to my goals.

Don’t think you are blessed?  Think this is all silly?  The truth is a change in your mindset will definitely change your outlook and the results.  Start with the little things you are grateful for: waking up in the morning, no traffic on the way to work, a roof over your head, family, food on the table, a job, and the list goes on.

I could go on and on because I am BLESSED.  When doubt and fear creep in or Negative Nellie or Doubtful Debbie try to pay a visit – I take a gratitude walk. I STOP and start listing all of the things I am grateful at the MOMENT – no matter how large or small. For me, this closes the door on the negative thoughts and helps me to focus on the positive things in my life.

What is your “I’d be happy if” statement? Let’s change it from a negative to a positive…

Here is one of my favorite songs by Laura Story…

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!

What is Your Favorite Wellness Tip?

geri hirsch + stretch // 141 Wellness TipsI have spent the last month faithfully going to Weight Watchers, measuring what I eat and sticking to the Candida Diet to detox my body.  I still have a ways to go but I am thrilled with the results. Each day feeling a little bit better.

Recently, I was on an Zoom call with Amber Annette and Desiree where Amber talked to me about how consistency equaled confidence and success.  We talked about the importance of positive mantras every day.   I started spending every morning (about 5 minutes) reading over my mantras and then visualizing my goal. It has set a tone for my day.

While doing all of this, I have found some really good (interesting) wellness tips online.  I hope you enjoy and possibly put to practice some of these life changing wellness tips.  We know the importance of water, sleep and exercise but you may be surprised at some and find a handful of new ideas.

1. Balance. Taking the time to give equal energy to all aspects of your life.

2. Loving yourself, taking care of your body, and appreciating everything around you.

3. Fresh air, sunshine and smiling 👣

4. Use Shea butter on your skin to keep them soft and smooth esp during winter –

5. Love and respect to everyone and around you as well as yourself!

6. Don’t ever deprive your body of anything. If it wants something, give it in moderation. Wellness is about working to be the best version of yourself and embracing yourself wholly for all you are

7. Ground yourself every day (find which method works best for you, whether it’s yoga or meditation or tai chi, etc.)…then imagine white light surrounding you and dissolving the energy cords and negative thoughts and chatter clogging your being so you can glow and✨SHINE ON!✨

8. Stress management in your surrounding is so important. Blaming others inwardly or outwardly only de-energizes us. Notice your thought patterns today. Are they of acceptance or judgement? Eliminating all drama can help immensely.

9. Start your morning off with 2 TBSP of coconut vinegar, a bit of coconut nectar, and 4-8oz of warm filtered water to help your stomach acidity. Then take a probiotic because it is best absorbed after vinegar. Anyone ever try this or have a similar morning drink?

10.  Morning lemon juice with water water or apple cider vinegar on a empty stomach + at least 5 mins of morning grateful-positive affirmations help me inject purpose every day, no matter how hard it might be or how many challenges I have in my life, being grateful even for the little things always helps me push through!  Another alternative is fresh carrot juice.

11. Skin oiling before a shower keeps you grounded and vitalized.

12. Eating fruit on an empty stomach, chaga tea anytime, & dry skin brushing for a healthy lymphatic system.

13. Listen to your body and live a life of balance (in spiritual, emotional, and physical aspects). And never underestimate the therapeutic power of giving to others in selfless love and being grateful for what you have

14. 11 minutes of conscious breathing a day. ” if you do not breathe consciously for 11 minutes a day, you lose 40% of the vitality of life… But if you do breathe consciously for 11 minutes a day, you can do exactly what no miracle can do, because our life depends on the breathe of life.” – yogi bhajan

15. Break a sweat at least once a day- good for the body and the mind

16. Surround yourself with those you can laugh with openly. – you know those deep belly laughs.

17. Develop a daily a morning routine consisting of nourishing your mind, body, and spirit and stick to it!

18. Self love is the greatest medicine. when we truly, deeply love ourselves, we will naturally understand how to care for ourselves, mentally, physically and emotionally. Listen to your body & your gut brain!

19. Dandelion root! Best for acne, and great hangover prevention tool.

20. Make sure to do at least one good thing for yourself everyday. It can be as small as drinking enough water, a workout, going to bed early, and eating well.

21. Epsom salt + baking soda in a hot bath with your favorite essential oils

22. See light in every situation and not allowing negativity in

23. Eat an avocado a day

24. Keep a positive outlook in life regardless of your circumstances. Healthy food is essential, but few things can compensate for a negative attitude. Gratitude works wonders

25. Strive for 90% good, 10% naughty. And laugh a lot.

What is your BEST wellness tip?

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!

 

The Journey

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Happy Monday!  I am slowly adjusting to having weekends off and loving it.  I am enjoying going to church on Sunday so I can refresh and recharge.  I enjoy getting up early and staying in my sweats.  Retirement #2 is a little bit easier than Retirement #1 was.

This past weekend, I have been reflecting on my weight loss journey.  I realized how much it and my business journey have in common.  When I started my weight loss journey many years ago with Weight Watchers, I thought when I reached goal weight there would be a magic wand and I would never have to worry about my weight again. Yes, I do sometimes live in a fantasy world.  I reached goal weight in 2015 and within two years managed to forget most of what I learned.  No, I didn’t gain ALL of the 130 pounds back but I felt like it despite the fact it was only 25 pounds.

As I walked into Weight Watchers a little over 2 weeks ago, it was like coming home.  Familiar faces who didn’t judge where I was.  Hugs from friends who reminded me how far I had come and how well I was keeping the weight off.  No more excuses.  Time to be honest with myself (and those around me).

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I DID IT!  Time  for me to take my own advice and hit the RESET button.  Weekly Weight Watcher meetings were a HUGE part of my weight loss journey.  When I hit goal weight, I thought “I got this”.  As the weight slowly crept on, I blamed health issues and wasn’t really honest with myself (or others).  I longed for the magic pill or the diagnosis of a thyroid problem to explain the weight gain. Crazy, right?

As I sat in the first meeting, I found I was there in body but not in mind. You have been there, right?  When you are half listening but the message doesn’t really sink in. Or, you are listening and at the same time checking emails and Facebook messages? Multi-tasking.  I do the same thing in my business.  Multi-tasking.  Finding reasons (okay, excuses) for why things are not working.  The truth is, when I commit 100% to listening and take action on my plan – things happen.

The scale is a great indicator of how well I have stuck to the program while a full calendar does the same in my business.  Consistency will help me to achieve my goals.  Achievements , large or small, “should” be the encouragement I need to keep moving forward, right?  The truth is, I am always looking for perfection – comparing myself and my progress to others.

When I walk into a Weight Watcher meeting room inspiration surrounds me.  The question is – will I absorb the positive or will I focus on the negative?

A sign shows Jennifer Hudson and says “I’m not perfect, I am HUMAN”. A cliche saying for some but a light bulb moment. It reminds me how I compare myself  (and my business) to others.

Let me ask you, do you have ANT?  No, I don’t mean the little critters.  It is an acronym for “automatic negative thinking”. I have them and I am sure you do, at least sometimes.  Those thoughts when things don’t go exactly as we planned.

Life is journey without a finish line!  My weight loss journey may have taken longer than others and seems like it will never end.  Honestly, it never will because when I reach goal weight again the goal will change to maintaining it.

As for my business, consistency will pay off and my calendar will be full.  Will I stop or will I maintain what I have done to keep my calendar full?  How often do we coast on our laurels when we achieve our goals?

Enjoy the journey without rushing towards the finish line.  I need to slow down and enjoy this roller coaster ride despite the fact I am NOT a fan of roller coasters. It seems like we are always rushing to something or somewhere when we need to “stop and smell the roses”.

Although our paths may be different, the journey we follow has many of the same attributes.  The key is to NOT compare your journey to others but to learn from them.  No matter what your goal or your journey is, focus on the positive aspects (large or small) and STOMP on the ANT!  Thank you for joining me in my Monday mindless ramble.

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!