- Identify the what happened to cause the change
- Why did it happen
- How can I use this for my personal growth
- What changes can I make to improve in the future
- Where can I find help or who can help
Today is Thankful Thursday. I know the rest of the social media world thinks of today as “Throwback Thursday” but today I want to be “thankful”.
I am thankful for:
- My Mom who loves me unconditionally
- Being a child of divorce
- My loving hubby
- Being a mom
- My guardian angels who always guide me
- A family who supports me despite my faults and bad decisions
- Mistakes I made in high school which changed my life
- Mistakes I made in college which shaped my future
- The variety of jobs as I looked for me
- The friends who have come for a season and those who have stayed
- My addiction
- My relapse and recovery
- My lack of confidence
- My business and its roller coaster journey
- My weightloss struggle
- My love of writing
- My passion for helping others
- My rocky walk with God
- My MS
- The rocky and winding road to find myself
- and al of the other good, bad and ugly parts of my life
My life has not been perfect, but today, I am deciding to view it through the lens of thankfulness and gratitude. For it is those things which have helped to shape me. It is those imperfections which have helped me to become the woman I am today. Some days those same things take me on a dark journey of negativity BUT today is NOT one of them.
TODAY, I am thankful for the struggles because without them I would not be able to make a difference in the life of someone else. I would not be able to be compassionate. I would not have the desire to make others smile.
TODAY, I am thankful for a loving God who not only has forgiven me for my mistakes but continues to guide me. I have faith and trust with Him, all things are possible.
So, what are you thankful for today? Share with us and let’s celebrate our imperfections together.
Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!
Thank you Kelly Balarie for today’s message.
But He said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore, I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me (2 Corinthians 12:9, NIV).
I am such a mess. I hate how I am. I can’t ever get a handle on this issue.
Thoughts of self-hatred coursed through my mind as I sat on the hard-tile floor and took it all in. . . Within the cabinets I’d just spent twenty minutes rearranging, there still was no semblance of organization. Papers shot out of books. Bags heaped left and right in no particular order. Shoes and knick-knacks filled the right side of the cabinet. And, worst of all, electrical cords stood like tumbleweed in the center of it all.
Regarding cleaning and organizing, my best efforts fell – way short. And this is the problem. You see, no matter what I do, everything stays a mess. I fix things for a moment, until: my kids come home and mess things up, I get busy and I forget to keep up with it all, or clutter becomes impossible to throw out because I fear I’ll lose future-memories.
I want to be a better mom than this; my family deserves better.
With a heavy heart, I decided to approach my husband, “Uh…,” I said. “Can I share something with you?”
“There’s an area I haven’t told you about where – all the time — I feel so angry at myself. Every time I open up a cabinet, I mentally get furious at how I feel like I’m the most unorganized woman on the planet.”
Compassionately, he looked at me and replied, “Well, maybe Jesus just wants you to remind you that His grace is sufficient.” And He was right. I finally understood. My cabinets – and my deficiency — are a blessing, not a curse.
How could a deficiency be a blessing? Deficiencies point us to Christ’s all-sufficiency. Through them, we come to the One prepared to help us. The One with answers. The One with all the grace to accomplish true and long-lasting life-change.
Grace accomplishes far more than our hardest labor ever could. Certainly, God often calls us to meet Him in this venture by working, but work without God is — toil.
My cabinets would now be a reminder of this. They, in all their untidy-glory, would almost speak, “Kelly, invite Jesus in to help you with this.”
Where do you need to invite Jesus in? What personal issue do you hate to look at? What feels unconquerable? Heavy? Burdening?
Jesus’ grace is sufficient. It is sufficient to change you, to rework you, to remake you, and to renew you.
It is more than okay to desperately need Jesus’ grace. It is life-changing to be in need of God.
Be encouraged. Wherever you feel powerless, God is powerful. Wherever you are hungry, God has food for you. Wherever you feel blind, God restores sight. You are not left behind or forgotten. God will help.
Today, rejoice by saying: No matter where I feel deficient, Christ is all-sufficient.
But He said to me, ‘My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.’ Therefore, I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me. (2 Corinthians 12:9, NIV)
Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!
No…. it isn’t Monday but I do love this picture!!!!!
Mornings are not my best time. I used to LOVE them. Yup, I was one of those crazy people who was on the go from early in the morning till I crashed at night. Then I got OLD! LOL. No actually MS hit. Now, I wake up in an MS fog which takes like an hour to fade away. I used to say, “Don’t talk to me until I had my coffee”, now it is “Don’t talk to me until I can clear the fog”.
Despite the fog, I do everything I can to make it a GREAT day! Some days are easier than others but I am determined to make the most of it.
How do you start your days? Do you set the alarm to get up early (maybe an hour before everyone else)? Are you full of motivation and anticipation for the day ahead or are you dragging and dreaded what might be. Despite the struggles which come with MS, I usually have my days planned out in some detail – where I’m going, who I will meet, what work I will get done and even some white space on the calendar for those unexpected curve balls called life.
Yup, it is all about the Law of Attraction. The reality is your negative (dreading) thoughts are killing your productivity before you even start your day. I know some days are tough. Some times it feels like every day is a Monday. I try to keep a positive attitude. Do you let one bad day, set the tone for the rest of the week or even the next few days? So, are you looking to make a change?
To be honest, when I decided to make the most of every day, I actually took control of my life’s direction. Now, before you start the negatives of why you CAN’T do these things, give them a chance. Remember baby steps are what help change the chaotic into the manageable. I don’t always do them all perfectly BUT I give them my best shot.
Allow yourself to really slow down and unwind. Maybe it is a glass of wine or reading a book or a bubble bath or a massage or watching endless episodes on Netflix? Why not, right? I know, you have a MILLION reasons but a little self indulgence lets you take some well earned rest. Your weekends (days off) should be different then your work week. It allows you time to forget the stresses and strains of being a busy woman on the go. You get to recharge so you are ready to start all over again.
#2 LIVE POSITIVELY
You need to practice this one daily. I know those inner gremlins are screaming at you. I know you have bad days. I have them too. The first thing I do is remind myself my life is not this one day. STOP and be grateful for the things in your life. It will help you to appreciate how good life really is. Your thoughts, your words, your status’, your tweets, your Facebook posts should ALL be positive. You wont be perfect but if you do your best; it will have a huge impact on the way you live your life.
#3 RISE EARLY
I have talked about this before…Getting up early is the most motivating and self satisfying thing you can do. When I used to wake up before 6am; I knew it was going to be a really great day. Devotions done by 6:30AM. Coffee and a shower and I am at my desk by 7:30am. Why so early? So I can be done in my office by 10 to enjoy time with hubby. Days like these, I am unstoppable. My mood is upbeat and I feel energized because I have been productive. Okay, so things have changed slightly with the onset of MS BUT on those days when I am up early and am ready to go – my outlook is so much brighter.
#4 MAKE LISTS
This is more a part of my life since the MS but I have to admit, I LOVE seeing things checked off. I make lists to ensure I don’t miss any thing and everything gets done. It is also a great way to set-up my planner so I don’t over schedule or over commit myself.
#5 TAKE REGULAR BREAKS
Yes, this actually is the key to being productive on any day. By taking a regular break, I get fresh eyes and enthusiasm. Planning all my tasks out in small increments helps too. It ensures I am not working non stop (or running around) for long hours. This is how I avoid the afternoon sugar and feeling lethargic so my productivity suffers. Take a tea break. Go for a short walk. Take a power nap. Read a little in your favorite book. You will see a huge difference in the rest of your day.
So, what are you going to do to make a difference in your day which will ripple into making a difference in your week? Share your ideas with us.
Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!
I have been talking a lot lately about my struggles. Of trying to decide if the glass is half empty or half full? My vision has been blurred (and not just by the glaucoma) with the struggle to process thoughts, find my passion and to stay focused. Do you look at the world through rose-colored glasses? Some days I do.
We’ve all heard those sayings, right? We may have actually felt the distinct difference between viewing life with a positive perspective and viewing it with a negative one. Positive beliefs draw more positive things, right?
My struggles with emotions is real… some days I want to curl up in a ball and cry for no apparent reason. Then there are days when I feel like the movie “50 Dates”, you know the one where she keeps reliving the same day and is always happy. All of these challenges hold opportunity but the key is learning how to change the mindset.
When it comes to facing life’s challenges—because we all have them—we have the change to reframe them, appreciating how struggles help us build strength and resilience. I could be a world-class weight lifter if that was the case. LOL. The key is to train our minds to view these challenges in a more positive light by first reflecting on our lives, identifying those tough times, and understanding how they shaped us and made us stronger.
As I reflect on the past challenges, those I can remember, I struggle with understanding them but I do see how they have made a huge impact on my life. I can see how the negative mindset has led me on the path of relapse and had me looking at life as if I was a victim. As I moved into recovery, I am slowly able to embrace the positive in all of life’s challenges and move forward.
In every challenge—and in the time which follows—we build strength and resilience. We don’t have the power to change the past, but we do have the power to find the positive within the past and use it to create a greater impact today.
Thank you for sticking with me during these challenges… my blog posts tend to ramble, my Thirty One business continues despite my bad days, and The Angel Connection is starting to grow. I guess you are wondering where is the challenge, right? For me, the challenge in finding my passion and deciding where I want to head in the future. How am I moving forward? I am reflecting on these key questions:
What are you learning? How are you growing?
I’m looking for the growth from each difficulty especially in my relapse and my MS diagnosis. I’m trying to identify new knowledge I’ve gained, relationships I’ve built, or personal growth I’ve experienced. The truth is I’m moving forward despite these challenges, which means I’m strong and resilient, right? I need to open my eyes to the positive outcomes. I know the lessons I have learned will help me to find my passion again and decide the direction for my business.
How does this challenge reinforce what you are grateful for in your life?
Practicing gratitude has been BIG during my recovery. I have felt ungrateful for all of the problems which came from my relapse. I felt resentful. I needed to find gratitude for what it’s given me and what it’s shown me. As I look at everything in my life—the big and little things—and learn to appreciate them, it is those things which will help me during the tough times.
What boundaries will you put in place in your life to avoid future challenges and allow yourself to grow?
With the lessons you learn and the strength you build, consider whether there are ways you can adjust your mindset or actions to prevent future challenges. Sometimes life events are out of your control, but other times, you can make changes to move you toward a life of growth, positivity, and purpose. My MS may be out of my control but continuing in recovery is something I can work on daily.
Today’s post has been a ramble, a way for me to share not only my personal struggles but to try and reframe it to help someone else. It you are struggling to discover your strength and resilience today, try these simple steps:
- Use the above questions to look at a challenge from your past. How has this challenge made you stronger and more resilient? Believe it or not, it has!
- Make a list of things you’re grateful for. Focus on the positive in your life, no matter what the circumstances. Large or small, it doesn’t matter.
Now, think about one way you can live out your purpose today—and then do it! It could be as simple as a random act of kindness or buying someone a coffee. Living with purpose requires strength and resilience. Tap into those and challenge yourself to grow further.
Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!