Stop The Comparison Game

12414868-Stop-sign-illustration-Stock-Vector-noWOOHOO!  It is the weekend, okay, the start of it and it is Feel Good Friday!  The day when we squash those inner gremlins who want to keep you from being happy…

When was the last time you compared yourself to someone else?  Over the years, I’ve compared myself to others when it came to school, looks, money, my business and more. The first step in stopping the “comparison game” is to acknowledge it.  The truth is everyone has done it at one point in their life. The difference is what happens after the comparison…

Some people compare themselves to others to determine their personal value which usually ends up with us feeling like crap, right?  Negative thoughts bring more negative thoughts.  Or do you play the comparison game and get inspired.  Does it motivate you to change your situation?  Honestly, this doesn’t happen to most people and in the end results in more negative thoughts.  Either way, by comparing yourself to others, you are holding yourself back.

Sure, you may not be able to reach a goal as quickly as someone else or it may require more hard work, but it doesn’t mean everything is impossible for you. Everyone is on a different path, and there are people who are better or worse off than you.  Instead of comparing your path to those around you, why not focus on what you can do to make your dream a reality.

Here is how you can stop comparing yourself to others…..

#1 – Realize comparisons are often negative and most of the time they do not help.

As Theodore Roosevelt said, “Comparison is the thief of joy.”  Be happy for others and instead of feeling jealous be happy for their success of others.  Good things can happen to other people, it doesn’t mean your life is any less important or any less of a success.  By being happy for others, you’ll learn to accept yourself and let more positivity into your life.

#2 – Be motivated, not competitive.

Be inspired by other’s success or happiness. The next time you find yourself comparing yourself to someone, think about how you could possibly do something similar (if it’s what you truly want to do). Use others achievements as inspiration for your own life and goals.

#3 – Take a break from social media.

This is tough in today’s world so why not “stop following” those who you play the comparison game with.  I am still friends with some people BUT I don’t check their news feed for snipits of their wonderful life.  Social media can be fun but you are just seeing carefully selected pieces of someone’s life.

#4 – Be confident.

I compare myself to others because I tend to lack self confidence.  While I’m not as confident as I would like to be, I am getting better.  Gaining confidence can help you too.  Yes, you can learn to be more confident.  When you are confident, you will learn how to stop comparing yourself to others because you believe in yourself.

#5 Be positive and happy with who you are.happy dance

No matter how life may be going for you, I believe a positive outlook can help to improve your life. It’s all about being grateful for what you already have. Everyone experiences sadness, anger, being scared, etc., and sometimes it can be difficult to see the positive or to be happy in spite of the circumstances.  Negative thoughts keep you feeling stuck with the feeling like there is no way out of your problems, and zero options. While being positive helps you realize you are able to do things, you are in control of your life, and the little things will not kill you.  You will be able to move on and deal with stressful situations better.

#6 – No one is perfect.perfect1

Accept your past and present, realizing you can make changes for the future if you truly desire to do so.  You may be at the beginning of the journey while someone else is at the middle or end.  You don’t know what they’ve been through, so you can end the comparison game.

 

These things are sometimes easier said then done.  Pick one and focus on it if you can’t fathom doing them all at once.  Find YOUR dream, then figure our YOUR action plan.

How could you stop comparing yourself to others?

 

Are You Lost?

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No, this is not a Negative Nellie post.  The truth is that sometimes people get lost.  They are confused about their purpose in this world, or they have get lost in a relationship or life passes them by or they have life challenges (this is me).  Maybe they want to change and they just don’t know how.  Maybe they want the life that they have always dreamed of but don’t know what steps to take.

Health issues have caused me to feel “lost” the last few months.  If you are feeling like me, for whatever reason, know that you are NOT alone. There is a way to find yourself.  Here are some great tips from Steven Aitchison’s blog

1. Tune into the message.

Being lost is like a messenger bringing you an urgent message.  You need to tune to the feelings by sitting quietly and just listen for the message.  Listen to your heart and then follow the signs of the Universe.  Maybe it is a physical sign, or a random thought, or a chance meeting with someone who inspires you.  Simply be open to receiving the message.  Believe it or not, with that simple step doors will open, opportunities will come, and feeling ‘lost’ will quickly be a distant memory.

2. Take “inspired” action.

Isn’t insanity repeating the same thing and expecting different results? So why not do something different – simply respond to the messages and ideas you receive on a daily basis. Go with the flow of life.

I LOVE this:  If you don’t know what action to take, do the thing that you are avoiding the most right now.  Avoidance is a powerful energy and it usually means there is something big waiting for you on the other side.

3. Follow your passion.

You have a passion for something, right?  When you do things you enjoy, you create energy that will change your life.  Passion is powerful and when you follow your passion, you find your purpose. Being lost is no longer an option when you are living your life with purpose.

4. Trust that everything can change in an instant (for the better).

The amazing thing about life is that it is always changing.  You may feel lost right now, but in an instant things can change for the better if you believe it to be true.  It’s the Law of Attraction – you get what you keep talking about. So when you believe that things can and will change, they will.

5. Upgrade your mindset.

We all have limiting beliefs – those inner gremlins we have collected over the years that aren’t serving us.  They need to be SQUASHED so that you CAN create the life you want and that you are worthy of living.  The beliefs you have about yourself, your life, and the world all contribute to your current experiences. So if your current life is less than you desire, it’s time to change your mindset.  It doesn’t matter what method you use (there are ALOT out there) but you have to create a lasting change to get out of that ‘lost’ place.

Lost is something that we have all felt some time in our lives, but the best part this feeling is the relief that is waiting for you.  Remember lost is not your final destination, unless you allow it to be.

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Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!