No More Running From Fear

Thank you Gwen Smith for today’s message.

Proverbs 1:7 tells us, “The fear of the LORD is the beginning of knowledge, but fools despise wisdom and instruction.” I don’t know about you, but I don’t like to be afraid.

Case in point. I was a tween with pimples; long, lanky limbs; and an attitude the summer our family went to Ohio to visit friends of my parents who lived on a farm. I didn’t much care if these people were nice. I didn’t much care what we would eat for breakfast, lunch, or even dinner. It wasn’t the beach, and I wasn’t overly thrilled to be in Ohio for a vacation. (No offense, Ohio people.) But I had heard they had horses, and that calmed my grump a good bit because, truth be told, I was giddy to ride one.

I just knew I was born to ride! My cousin Beth had horses, but up to that point, she hadn’t had the chance to teach me the ropes. Finally I would have my chance.

The sun danced with a summer breeze the morning we journeyed past the barn out into the pasture for our horse adventure. It was beautiful. A perfect day for an eager girl to do something new and exciting.

I got a quick bit of instructions, and then I mounted the saddled creature, grabbed the reins, and ventured out into the grassy fields. All by my big-tween-girl self.

Freedom met me in the tall grass as Butterscotch and I became fast friends.

We walked. We cantered. We even galloped! I was so good at this!

And then I turned him around, back toward his owner and the barn, and Butterscotch got his run on in a fierce way.

Scared. Me. To. Death.

I didn’t know what to do. I screamed, dropped the reins, and held on to the horn of the saddle for dear life. The owner was waving her hands trying to tell me what to do, but she sounded like Charlie Brown’s teacher, and the moment was blurry mayhem.

Then when I was sure we would crash into the barn, causing me to meet Jesus way too young, Butterscotch came to a halt.

And I went inside to change my pants. (Joking.)

I was so scared that I collapsed into an ugly cry. Couldn’t even control my emotions. And on that day, one thing became crystal clear to me: I do not like to be afraid.

Seriously.

If I see a snake, a mouse, or a spider (generally anything with more or fewer legs than I have), chances are I’m going to run the other way screaming louder than a middle-school girl at a Taylor Swift concert. Why? Because those creatures freak me out. It’s an unsettling kind of fear. And remember? I don’t like to be afraid.

Yet the Bible says we are to fear the Lord. Come again? How does this make sense?

I’ve come to understand that the fear of the Lord is a good kind of fear; it’s a righteous fear. The best kind. When God says we are to fear Him, He’s saying we are to be in awe of Him, to revere Him as the One who dwells in unapproachable light. To recognize Him as the eternal eminence who sits on the throne of grace and lovingly welcomes us to encounter Him intimately as we worship.

I fear God when I reflect on His greatness, when I whisper, “Good job on that flower, God!” when I trace the jawline of my sleeping, whiskered man-child and give thanks to the loving Creator who created him.

I fear God by giving Him the honor, esteem, and adoration due Him. In good times and bad.

I fear God by recognizing that He is God and I am not.

I fear God by understanding that all of the power in heaven and on earth is His. And in doing so, I’m ushered into a fresh beginning. To the greatest resource of power. To a starting gate that opens wide to knowledge, wisdom, and instruction—all of which are worth far more than any understanding this world offers.

Straight up: The world is a faction of fools who laugh at godly wisdom. It whispers venom to our souls …

“You don’t have to pay attention to God.”

“Do things your way.”

“More! You need more!”

“It’s okay to watch that raunchy movie or read that trashy novel.”

Blah. Blah. Blah…

No thank you, world. I’ve got a mad crush on my God, and I don’t need your misguided direction. The fear of the Lord leads me to wisdom in a beautifully sacred way. And that’s a fear worth running toward full force.

Have a blessed day!

Throwback Thursday – Celebrate the Ones You Love

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Since I am still floating in my pink bubble, I decided to do a “Throwback Thursday” post which seemed so appropriate.  This is from July 21, 2013 – the first year I started blogging. Funny that this is about preparing to go to National Conference and this year, I am recouping after being away.

Sunday is my time to reflect, relax and recharge. Every morning I get several emails on daily devotions – I know why do I need some many, right? I find that each one touches me in a way the others couldn’t when I am struggling. As I head off to church this morning, my mind is racing with the TO DO list for the next two days as I prepare to leave for HOTLANTA on Wednesday. In all of the busyness, there is one message that stuck out for me – a “Message from God” that is short, sweet and to the point.

Today, Hope, we believe God wants you to know that … you cannot let this day pass without telling the people you love that you love them. Do not take for granted the people closest to your heart. Nothing is permanent, celebrate them now.

Life gets in the way for all of us – We forget to call family and friends thinking we will get to it later. We forget to send that email to let someone know we are thinking of them. We miss sending a birthday card and then figure if it is late, why bother. Errands, work, the mom taxi, doctors appointments, etc all keep us busy. Then something stops you in your tracks – a call about a friend who is sick, a family member in the hospital, a posting on Facebook that a fellow classmate has died too soon. SMACK! The reality hits that time has slipped by – days, weeks, months and you have lost touch with those you love or who are the closest to your heart.

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Take time today to pause for a moment – make that phone call, send that email, mail a card just to say I was thinking about you. CELEBRATE the people in your life that are closest to your heart. Don’t let the miles, however large or small, get in the way of letting them know you care.

Today, I will CELEBRATE – ENCOURAGE – REWARD those in my life who are the closest to my heart. How about you? Have a ThirtyOne-derful day.

Filling My Cup

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By the time this posts, I will be on the road headed for Columbus, OH! Yes, Ohio! It is that time of year again – Thirty One’s National Conference.

This year I am hitting the road with my mom and one of my team members. I am excited that my mom is joining me this year.  She has been a HUGE supporter of my business so it will be fun to share “my pink bubble” with her.

In Columbus, I will be re-connecting with old friends, and getting a chance to make some new friends. It is definitely more than just a “purse thing“. It is a sisterhood that can not be explained in a few short words. The speakers for this year are going to ROCK the house.

I had a contest on my Facebook page to help me figure out which “hat” would be this year’s trademark – which one do you think won or do you think I went out and got a new one?

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So what does this all have to do with organizing or de-cluttering or making a difference?  The things that I’m taking with me to conference are the same things that you should be taking with you when you step out of your comfort zone….

So, here is what else I am taking…

A POSITIVE Attitude! Despite anything that may happen today or all week I want to attract other consultants & leaders to share our strengths, hopes and experiences.   They are ONLY attracted to other positive attitudes.  Remember the Law of Attraction?

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A DESIRE to learn something from every person that I meet.  I will be taking LOTS of notes and lots of screen shots since the memory isn’t what it used to be.

Patience Patience Patience – there are going to be thousands of us there along with the Speakers, Home Office staff, and everyone else that it takes to put on a Conference. There will be crowds. There will be lines. There will be waits. I am going to use these as an opportunity to meet some new friends, or shoot a text to a hostess or potential team member and share my excitement!

What I am NOT bringing to National Conference:

Envy – while I set my goals high and aspire to be a better consultant and leader, I will NOT compare my journey of where I am or where I am NOT to someone else’s.  The comparison game and this inner gremlins can spoil everything, if we let them.

A BAD Attitude ~ We ALL have crazy things happen to us and an opportunity to complain… do NOT do it! It ruins the fun for everyone else around and they will NOT want to be around you!

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My Other Hats of Mom, Wife, and Housekeeper!  This is a time for me to fill my cup.  A time to increase my knowledge and bond with my other “sisters”.  Yes, I will miss my hubby, but I can concentrate and focus better if I’m not worrying about everyone or everything  else.

How many times have you stepped out of your comfort zone and NOT brought a desire to fill your cup and a positive attitude?  When we try something new or different, we need to leave the inner gremlins of doubt, fear, envy and comparison home.  It is when we bring them along that the results are not what we hoped for.

Share your best tip for being successful when you step out of your comfort zone?

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!

What will You Give Up To Have Success

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I’m so excited…in just 4 short days, I will be leaving NJ to head to Columbus Ohio.  Okay, for some that may not sound exciting but for me it is a HUGE milestone.  It is HUGE for me because health challenges have subsided enough that I can travel.  I will be attending Thirty One’s National Conference.  I will be entering my pink bubble to re-connect with old friends and connect with new ones.  I will soaking up lots of training and getting a sneak peek at the NEW Fall prints and products.  WOOHOO!!

So this week, I will be talking about working from home and building a business that you love.  For those who say “I don’t have a business so this won’t pertain to me”, if you are a stay at home MOM, you are working.  Here are some things that I “gave up” in order to become successful in my business…

It’s selfish to consider my own needs first.

As women, we take care of EVERYONE!  We continually place our needs at the bottom of the list.  Not only can this mindset stop you cold in your ability to sell your products and recruit new team mates; it can also leaving your cup empty with nothing to give to anyone else. If you are overly focused on everyone else you will have a hard time asking for business (or help with household tasks). It is important to fill your cup on a regular basis.

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It’s my fault if others aren’t happy.

This is a tough one and I struggle with this in all aspects of my life.  You are not responsible for the feelings of others. Read that again and let it sink in.  There is NOTHING that you can do that will make unhappy people happy.  The reverse is also true that no one can make you unhappy either.  I encourage you to focus on what you can control (yourself) and let go of what you can’t (others).  I know this can be easier said then done.

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I must say “YES” when people ask me for my time.

No is a very powerful word. If you can get comfortable with it, you can free yourself from a lot of unnecessary commitments and headaches. If you are leading a team, saying NO to complaining, excuses and drains on your time can be empowering. Running a household, don’t allow people to suck you dry. Invest your time where you want and allow others to feel however they choose (check out #2!).

I wish things were different than they are right now.

Do you think like this?  When you feel like this, are you ready to quit before you even get start?  Forget about pursuing your dream, right? This is part of the comparison game of life.  Here’s a secret….you are exactly where you are supposed to be. Trust the process, keep working and know that each day you are making progress, learning new things and becoming the person you need to be

Tough lessons no matter where you are in your life.  I have found in the last month or so, when I began to accept 100% responsibility for my own actions, thoughts and attitudes, I am able to smile more and stress less.  My business is blooming (again), and there is more harmony at home.

Share your thoughts with us…Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!