How Do You Define Success?

positive thoughtsIn the dictionary, success is defined as : the fact of getting or achieving wealth, respect, or fame; and the correct or desired result of an attempt.  

I love when someone asks me this question because on any given day, I don’t FEEL successful.  The “no’s” have out numbered the yea’s.  The goals set seem unobtainable.  Satan is having a field day and Doubtful Debbie has crashed the party.

Most days my success is not about the exterior things, it is about the interior changes I am making as I walk the road of recovery.  Don’t get me wrong, all of the “stuff” is great but I find when I get into all of the material aspects, I forget about the interior success I am making in my life. I lose focus and the world begins to spin.  For some, a success journal or gratitude list help them to celebrate keep their success – large and small keeping it in front of them on a daily basis.

Here is a fun tip from Party Plan Divas:

Keeping a success journal  will help to motivate you when Doubtful Debbie comes to call.  Takes only 10-15 minutes a day to write down your achievements and the tasks you’ve accomplished. I bet these 15 minutes a day have the power to transform all your life.  I know you are saying – “When do I have 10 minutes to myself?”. Find them – sitting in the car as they fill your gas tank, waiting to pick the kids up from school or an activity or even in the bathroom.  I know that may sound crazy but for some, that is the ONLY place to get a few minutes of peace and quiet.

By writing down your achievements you will be able to feel the progress. You will see how by small steps you’re moving closer and closer to your goal.  Remember that writing things down makes us accountable and keeps us on track.  Just like tracking your food when dieting – a success journal will help you to eliminate temptation.  A Success Journal will also help you to keep Doubtful Debbie and Negative Nellie from paying an unwelcome visit.  Believe it or not, it will help to simplify your life (that is what they say – but I am not so sure about that).

However you should be aware of three rules of keeping a success journal:

1. Write only what you’ve done.  Don’t write what you still haven’t done and what you still have to do tomorrow.  List only accomplished tasks and achievements.  Keep with the POSITIVE and a voice the NEGATIVE.

2. List even small things.  Everything counts! A phone call, an email blast, or your decision to pass by the chocolate cheesecake.  This could help on so many levels.

3. Make it a daily habit.  Don’t skip days! Even if you’re exhausted make sure you write at least 1-2 sentences in your success journal. Even if the only thing you did that day was think about your goal.  In 30 days you wouldn’t possibly be able to live without it.  Remember that it takes 21-days to make it a habit!

Who has a success journal?  How has it helped you?

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!

Are You Stepping Out?

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Happy Monday!  This poem is courtesy of Party Plan Divas

I used to have a comfort zone, where I knew I couldn’t fail;

The same four walls and busy work were really more like jail.

I longed so much to do the things I’d never done before,

But, I stayed inside my comfort zone and paced the same old floor.

I said it didn’t matter that I wasn’t doing much,

I said I didn’t care for diamonds, rings, and such.

I claimed to be so busy with the things inside the zone,

But deep inside I longed for something special all my own!

I couldn’t let my life go by just watching others win

I held my breath and stepped outside to let the change begin!!

I took a step and with new strength, I’d never felt before,

I kissed my comfort zone good-bye, and closed and locked the door!!

If you are in a comfort zone, afraid to venture out

Remember that all winners, at one time were filled with doubt!

A step or two and words of praise can make your dreams come true!

Greet your future with a smile and Success is there for you!!

~Author unknown

December is upon us and many are already starting to plan for January.  They have written off December for so many reasons – holidays, family gatherings, holiday parties, vacations and the list goes on.  But this is a GREAT time to step out of your comfort zone.  Whether it is to make some new friends, help out a great cause, looking for a new job or maybe you want to grow a business.  Whatever the reason, stepping out of YOUR comfort zone can dredge up a mixture of feelings, right?

I have to admit, I can be a creature of habit. I invest in new trainings, buy into new ideas and in theory they are all wonderful. The truth is, they don’t work unless you put them to work. It is like the doctor giving you medicine to cure something, you leave it in the box and you remain sick. I “want to but” seems to hang on my tongue. “What will people think?” rings in my head. REALLY!!! I stepped out of my comfort zone in the past and success surrounded me.  So, what is stopping me now?  A few set-backs, some health challenges and FEAR creeps back in.

As I close out my holiday parties, I have a sense of satisfaction.  I stepped out of my comfort zone and the results are awesome.

I am ready to gear up for the New Year filled with awe and wonder. Ready to embrace my dream of Rays of Hope – The Angel Connection. Ready to step out of my comfort zone. Ready to explore new territories. Ready to claim the blessings that are mine.

Who is ready to step outside of their comfort zone and join me?

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!

A Lesson in Leadership

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Happy HUMP DAY!  I wanted to share this post from Party Plan Divas and Lynsey Jones.  The focus is about being a Leader in your direct sales business BUT these lessons that our children teach us can be applied any part of our life.

If you’ve ever watched children play, then you see that some just seem to be natural born leaders and it comes to them with little to no effort. They take charge without even really trying to make it happen. They possess the signs of being a true leader – even at a young age. I realized that we can learn from these little leaders to help us grow our direct sales businesses even more.

Mission Minded

Children who are leaders go onto the playground filled with a mission in mind. They make it their goal to get everyone on board with their course of action. They don’t let objections from others steer them off from their overall plan. Whether it is to get everyone to play a certain game, or to control who goes on which apparatus first – these children have a clear cut goal.

Selfless

Even though they have a clear plan in mind, they are open to ideas from their team mates on how to achieve the mission. They ensure they are considerate of everyone’s points of views. They don’t leave any member behind or feeling worthless. A leader knows how to get everyone involved – by making them all feel like they are a part of the group.

Create Connections

In a child’s mind, everyone they get to play with instantly becomes a new friend. They act like this person is their best friend and will be for all of time within minutes of meeting each other. They savor the moments they have with each other to the fullest. They aren’t afraid to ask personal questions and get to know each other. They make instant plans to spend more time together if their parents allow it.

Persistent

An often overlooked sign of being a leader, is pure persistence. A person who feels in charge is quite persistent about obtaining what they want. In most cases, the person being pushed doesn’t even feel it’s happening to them. A leader has a way of incorporating another person’s desires into their own because they seek out like-minded people to be around. Children are the perfect example of persistence and never giving up – just think about how many times they ask for that ice cream cone.

Responsible

Children who are in charge aren’t afraid of taking the consequences should their plan cause someone to get in trouble. They are also quick to stand up for their groups. They own responsibility for themselves and those under their care. They make sure everyone is treated equally and gains the same rights.

What have kids around you taught you about the signs of being a leader? Share your thoughts with us…

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!

 

Comfortable? Time for a Change

comfort-zone

Are you comfortable in your business?  I mean think about it.  Have you gotten into a routine of things and despite the fact that it may not be working, you keep doing it.  It is comfortable but you believe that things will change, right?  I don’t want to burst your bubble BUT the truth is that’s a little insane!  The definition of insanity is you keep doing the same thing but expect different results.  Sound familiar?

Courtesy of Party Plan Divas

I used to have a comfort zone, where I knew I couldn’t fail;

The same four walls and busy work were really more like jail.

I longed so much to do the things I’d never done before,

But, I stayed inside my comfort zone and paced the same old floor.

I said it didn’t matter that I wasn’t doing much,

I said I didn’t care for diamonds, rings, and such.

I claimed to be so busy with the things inside the zone,

But deep inside I longed for something special all my own!

I couldn’t let my life go by just watching others win

I held my breath and stepped outside to let the change begin!!

I took a step and with new strength, I’d never felt before,

I kissed my comfort zone good-bye, and closed and locked the door!!

If you are in a comfort zone, afraid to venture out

Remember that all winners, at one time were filled with doubt!

A step or two and words of praise can make your dreams come true!

Greet your future with a smile and Success is there for you!!

~Author unknown

When was the last time that you did something that made you feel uncomfortable?  If you can’t remember, it is time to make a change.  Being uncomfortable can actually lead to growth in your business.  Think about the successful people you know – are they willing to do things that other people either didn’t want to do or couldn’t think to do?

For some, stepping out of the “comfort zone” comes naturally. For others, they have to overcome the FEAR to accomplish this.  Yes, I am guilty of resorting to my comfort zone.  As I kick off the Fall season, I am working on doing things differently.  Here are some tips that might help YOU:

  • Don’t overthink it. Have an idea that is totally out of your “norm”, think about it but don’t spend so much time on it that you psych yourself out of doing it.  You won’t know if it will work, if you don’t try it.  Who knows just because it didn’t work for someone else doesn’t mean that it won’t work for you.
  • Talk to other people. Find a support system that will help you through the decision-making (and execution) process.  I love to bounce my ideas off of people to see what they think.  Sometimes it will be hubby for the practical business advice and sometimes it will be a friend who can see the bigger picture.
  • Start small.  For me, starting small is getting back to making into the habit of making follow-up calls or even those chicken calls.  You know the people you want to ask to party or offer the opportunity to but you let FEAR take hold.

The great thing about making yourself less comfortable is that it becomes easier over time.  The first time you step out of your comfort zone, you might experience fear and anxiety, but by the 10th time, it will come naturally, and you’ll still get all the benefits of breaking out.

The next time you start feeling yourself becoming comfortable with your business, force yourself to change something.  Keep the pressure on, and there’s no limit to the heights you’ll be able to grow.  I believe in YOU!!!

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!

 

Big Money, Little Money

It is Friday… TGIF.  For me and many in the direct sales, this is when we start working – vendor events, home parties, catalog parties, and recruiting.

I saw a new recruiting game in an email from Party Plan Divas that I think would be GREAT!  I can’t wait to try this at one of my parties especially when there are some ladies sitting on the fence.

It is called Big Money, Little Money.  Here is how it works:

Have two volunteers come up. Explain that both of these ladies are wonderful, but that they could use a little extra money each month. Ask them if they would like more money. They usually say “yes”

Ask the first one what her favorite place to shop is. Whatever she answers, say that she has just got a part time job there. Her new schedule is (pick 3 days and stick with it). The second lady is going to be a brand NEW _____________ consultant on my team. Yay!

I am so excited, are you excited??? They say “yes” The first lady goes to work and she likes her job. Tonight she works 4 hours and earns $10 an hour. So she earns $40. Reach for some play money.

 Ask the second lady when she would like to work this week. She has a party and earns (whatever your company average is). Give her huge, laminated bills!  

So now it is payday, the first lady gets her check. She loses 25% (about $10) immediately to taxes. She buys items from her store and brings home the rest.

At the end of the week, the second lady (the new consultant) has (insert the average here). Now, she has tax obligations, too, but she also has new deductions that she can take for owning her own business.

Ask both ladies to hold up their earnings to the group and ask, “Who made the BIG money?” Then just sum up with, “let me know if you or someone you know might like a bit of BIG money in their lives!”

So what do you think?  It is an easy way to show the benefits of being in direct sales.  I have to admit that my favorite and most successful recruiting tool especially for hostesses is to “flip” their party into their launch party.  It requires you to bulk up your calendar because if they do flip, any parties that are a result of their launch party becomes their party. A risk that I am usually willing to take to grow my team and share the gift of Thirty One.

Who is willing to try it this weekend and let us know how it goes?

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!