Gaining Confidence Is An Ongoing Process

I have been having one of those weeks…. yup, fear and doubt has crept in.  My confidence has been shaken and I am wondering what my purpose is in life.  What happened?  I’m not sure except I have had some weird health days.  Days of feeling unsure.  Most days I can shake it then there are some when I need a confidence booster.  Surrounding myself with supportive  friends and family is part of it BUT sometimes I need to work on me.

Here are some things I do to help shake those nasty inner gremlins:

1.  Share Your Gifts & Passion with Others

Everyone has gifts and talents even when our confidence is lacking.  When I have days like this, I start writing.  Because I know sharing my struggles with others is one of my gifts.  You have accomplished great things – don’t downplay what you have achieved.  I know I am guilty of this all of the time.  The truth is, we are all good at something and there is always someone who wants to learn.

2. Forgive Yourself for Your Mistakes

When I have days like this, I tend to focus on all of the mistakes I made in life. Remember negative thoughts brings more negative thoughts.  When we hold ourselves or others to high standards expecting perfection, we are usually left feeling less than, a failure, and unworthy. Give yourself a break!  Self-forgiveness is an important step towards building your self esteem and confidence.  Everyone make mistakes, you are no exception and you deserve to be forgiven.

3. Pay it Forward or Pay Yourself

Are you looking to right your wrongs or make a change due to mistakes from your past which may be holding you back?  We can’t wave a magic wand and make them go away BUT we can change the outcome.  Didn’t make school a priority in your life?  Go back and take some classes.  Maybe you weren’t there for friends and family – make amends.  As a recovering addict, my mission is to help those who are struggling because others helped m.  What mistake can you forgive yourself for so you can move on?

4. Be Solution Focused

I always say negative thoughts brings more negative – positive brings more positive, it is the way of the Universe.  So, when you are always complaining about not having enough (of anything), nothing gets accomplished. Look for solutions when things aren’t going as planned. This will take some practice before it becomes natural.  In the end, you will be able to approach a problem from a mindset of how to solve it instead of WHY ME victim mindset.

5. Smile

I know it is hard to smile when you are feeling less than BUT a little smile goes a long way. You would be surprised how it can actually change your mindset. It makes me feel good to smile, and it can also brighten someone else’s day.  In some cases this is where I advocate, fake it till you make it.   I don’t mean being fake to others, it is about learning to pick your head up and feel good along the way. The more you do it, before long, you will forget you were “faking it” and actually feed better, maybe even GOOD or GREAT!

6. Fear is Your Friend

FEAR is huge when we are not feeling confident (at least for me).  I am trying hard to use fear to my advantage! Think about it – fear shows up when you are about to step out of your comfort zone, stretch yourself and build your confidence. This is your secret weapon to growing.  When you recognize it is about to get scary, you are about to expand yourself which is HUGE confidence builder.

Despite popular belief (and my constant writing about it) I do struggle with confidence.  I am always amazed how I am more confident around people I don’t know then I am around friends or business colleagues.  Those nasty inner gremlins love to play the comparison game.

Share your struggles and your successes with us.  Let’s BUILD each other up so we are all successful in our business (and our lives).

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!

 

Your Happiness Trigger

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Happiness is what we all want, right?  To be happy and have harmony in our life.  I never say “balance”.  It makes me feel like it is always one thing or the other instead of my life melting together in harmony.

Valerie Burton is all about being “Unstuck and Unstoppable”.  She has an AWESOME “Happiness Test” that asks a series of questions and at the end you find out what YOUR personal happiness triggers are.

You are thinking “I know what makes me happy”, right?  Spending time with my kids, seeing family, my job, travel, friends, etc.  I am sure the list goes on because for me I thought I knew too.  The truth was that on the surface these are the things that make us happy but deep down what is the core “trigger” for that happiness.

There are two categories of happiness triggers – personal and power.  The top Personal Triggers  are the things that you should nurture, finding new ways to use them more often to boost your happiness level.  These are the triggers that you are unique to your personality and lifestyle.  Here are my top 3:

Service
Key decision: “Every day, I do at least one thing to brighten someone else’s day.”
Service is a habit and genuine enjoyment of serving other people.

Anticipation
Key decision: “Every day, I make sure I have something to look forward to.”       Anticipation is your ability to create a life that is filled with moments and opportunities to look forward to, and intentionally noticing what there is to look forward to on a daily basis.

Smile!
Key decision: “Every day, I find a way to smile – especially on bad days.”
Simply stated, this is your expression of joy through a genuine smile and laughter.

What I found most interesting were my power triggers.  The power triggers provide you with the greatest opportunity to boost your happiness level because these are the ones you use the least – and perhaps even neglect.  YIKES!  These are definitely things that I don’t do a lot of:

Movement
“I spend 30 minutes each day moving my body.”
Movement is exercising and getting your body moving on a regular basis.

Relaxation
“I sleep. I rest. I embrace what is.”
Relaxation is the habit of letting go, slowing down, taking breaks, and trusting that all things will work together for good.

Savoring                                                                                                                                              “Every day, I enjoy a moment worth savoring.”                                                                      Savoring is your ability to actively savor and appreciate positive experiences in your life.

The Happiness Trigger Test takes about 5 minutes, take it and share your results. It is time for you to focus on your power triggers so you can be unstoppable in all areas of our life!

Whatever your triggers may be, I would love the chance to celebrate, encourage and reward you.  Let me put your happiness level into overdrive and best of all, I will reward you with FREE and discounted products for you, your friends and your family.  Want to know more? Fill out the form below

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!

 

 

A JOB or a Calling

“Whoever wants to become great among you must be your servant? as the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve” Matthew 20:26-28

Have you ever seen a person at work and think “this is their calling”?  That person that loves their job so much that they would probably do it even if they didn’t get paid.  I know for some that is a crazy thought.  I mean, we all want to get paid for what we do, right?

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Over the last week, I have been thinking a lot about this. Why?  At first, I thought it was because I was struggling in my business.  Then I thought “maybe I need to do something else”?  The truth was, I can’t imagine a day without Thirty One in it – the connections with fellow consultants, customers, and hosts plus the amazing product.  I know I could have the amazing product without the business but I would miss out on blessing others.

I think back to my early days in Social Work.  I fell into the job (God’s plan for overcoming a bad situation) and fell in love.  Yes, I worked with difficult people.  Yes, I put myself in what some may call danger very day.  Yes, I worked for peanuts in a non-profit when I had a college degree in pre-law.  The truth was “I loved it”.  I loved helping people and putting a smile on their face.  Did I get a thank you?  On rare occasions but it didn’t matter.  I was making a difference in their life even for a moment.

I have retired from Social Work and have been searching for my calling.  God has a plan for me and I know that.  I guess I just need to figure out what it is and go for it.  Or maybe stop searching and just LISTEN.

There are times that I wonder if direct sales is for me.  I wonder if this is my calling.  I don’t just want to sell product.  I want to make a difference in people’s lives. I want to help women plan their first party in their home after a messy divorce.  I want to make people smile when they are down with my silly happy mail.  I want to help raise funds for that family that just can’t afford to pay for their child’s extra activities.

I have been part of an online program this past week that got me to thinking – scary, right?  The truth is that they have helped me visualize what I want to do.  Being a part of Britt’s Authentically Audacious Retreat: Stop Spinning Your Wheels With Mis-Aligned Clients helped me think about my ideal client/customer.  They are women in need.  In need of a smile.  In need of FREE product.  In need of friendship.  WOW!  That was huge for me.  My calling is to help people through my Thirty One business and my blog.

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My parties may not be organized.  They may not be like everyone else’s.  They may not be what I visioned them to be before I went.  The truth is they are what God planned for them to be.  See I pray for my hostess, the guests and  me before each party.  I ask for the right words, the right people and to be able to make someone smile.  God always comes through.  Funny thing is that it took this moment for me to realize that.

So, are you working a job for a paycheck or are you living out your calling doing something you enjoy (or LOVE)?

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!