Are You Meeting Your Goals?

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The first Monday morning of a new month, how I love setting up goals for success.  I am learning how to set goals in all areas of my life in an effort to stay focused.  It isn’t always easy on those “bad days” but there are things I want to accomplish, what about you?

Sometimes we focus on professional/ business goals, sometimes the focus is on personal goals and often it’s both. Regardless of the focus, many times we don’t meet our goals, even when they’re really important to us.  Admit it, I am  not alone, right?

Why?

When I am talking about goals, I don’t mean the proverbial to-do lists, I mean actual goals.    When we are trying to lose weight, the goal is a number on the scale.  In our careers, maybe it is a certain pay or job title.  In our business maybe it is the chance to have our own business which actually pays the bills.  Maybe your goal is freedom from debt.  Whatever it is,  why is it so hard to meet those goals?  You have the desire and motivation, right?  So why don’t we reach them sometimes?

Multi-tasking!  Yup, the main reason most people don’t reach their goals is because they are trying to do too many things at once. As we get ready to set ‘new year resolutions” or as I like to call them “new year goals”, how often do we list out more than two?  Think about how you started this past year, how long was your list of goals?

Maybe you wanted to lose weight, eat better, get a new job, find your passion, be a good mother, create a vibrant social life, start a business and so on. Sound familiar? All are terrific desires, but too much for one person to handle at any given time.

When we try to make lots of changes in our life, it is overwhelming and we become unproductive. Despite years of thinking “multi-tasking” was a good thing, recent studies are showing it is actually less efficient than focusing on one project at a time. WOW!  I was the QUEEN of multi-tasking.  With the onset of MS, I am finding this doesn’t work for me.  The truth is our brains just aren’t wired to do lots of things simultaneously.

Although it’s wonderful to have multiple goals in life (I know I do), the key to success is to step back, examine what you really want right now, and pick ONE goal to focus on. YIKES!  I know it’s hard to do, but if you spend the majority of your time focusing on just one goal, you’ll accomplish it in record time. Determine the steps you need to finish the project, follow those steps daily before you tackle anything else on your daily to-do list.  Remember no more than 3 things on your to-do list a day!

I will admit, my vision board for 2017 was filled with many things.  The reality is, when I focused on just two aspects – things began to happen.

First, I earned the Leadership Incentive Trip.  Then I moved on to being consistent in my business.  The results have been AWESOME!  While reaching for my goals in business, I built strong relationships and strengthened my walk with God.

I am already thinking about my vision board for 2018.  I really do like the simple drawings and words.  Handmade helps me to feel connected with it instead of just cutting out pictures from a magazine.

What’s amazing is with laser focus, you’ll reach the goal sooner and be able to move on to the next goal on your list. Handling your goals one at a time like this will actually enable you to achieve more each year than if you try to complete everything at once.

Set up a time frame (90 days is recommended) to devote yourself to the goal you’ve chosen to focus on first. After 90 days, if you’ve been taking consistent and concentrated actions you’ll have hit the goal – or at least come a lot closer to it than if it was just another item on your list of things to do.  Will some of the other goals overlap?  YES!  Will you make progress in other areas while focusing on one? YES!

Won’t it feel AMAZING this time next year to know you have accomplished the most important goals you’ve set for yourself? Try it for six months and see what happens!

Want to be accountable?  Share your goal with us and then come back in 90-days to share the results.

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!

 

Do You Suffer From Goal Fatigue?

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WOOHOO!  Happy Friday……

I have been talking with friends over the last week about our goals for the year and it seems like some have run out of energy?  They are getting close to their goal and their desire wains.  They are losing steam.  Crazy, right?  You would think the closer you get, the more excited you get.  Unfortunately, it is not always the case and there are some solid reasons for it.

I get it, though, we are just two months from the end of the earning period for the Leadership Incentive Trip and I am getting distracted.  I saw the same thing happen on my weight loss journey as I got closer to goal weight the first time.  I believe it is our inner gremlins of fear and doubt but there are some other theories on the subject.

When we start out, we are motivated. Then distractions pop up and our consistency drops off.  When we have LOTS of goals on the table sometimes they take more time and energy than we first thought.  Before you know it, you feel scattered and don’t know what the next step to take is. So you STOP – not taking any steps.

I’m sure I am not alone when I say “I often think I can accomplish more than I can”.  Maybe it is the comparison gremlin or being an optimist or some would say I am just clueless.  Whatever it is, the size of my goals usually exceed the time frame in which I can get them done.  How many goals or New Year Resolutions did you make? The truth is, when we set too many goals, we are usually sabotaging our ability to reach any of them.  And sometimes, the problem isn’t setting too many goals, but not recharging and celebrating between goals. Yup, I’m guilty of it!

This is my vision board for this year…..I was inspired by my accountability partner to just draw it instead of cutting out pictures from a magazine.  Of course, we don’t have many magazines so it was always a good excuse not to do one.  Drawing it made it real to me.  I carry a copy of it in my planner so I can look at it when fear and doubt creep in.vision-board

Okay, so back to “goal fatigue”.  Researchers talk about your emotional and personal resources getting depleted as you travel on your journey to the finish line of your goal. Believe it or not, the discipline and mental energy necessary for you to reach a goal are finite, even if your ambition is not. Now, it doesn’t mean you stop setting goals what it does mean is narrowing your focus.

When you set too many goals (or New Year’s Resolutions), your finite energy is spread thin instead of concentrating on one or two things.  Yes, you can still exhaust your personal energy when you have only one goal.  The key is to replenish it before you jump into the next goal.  Here is where some self-care and celebration comes in once you reach a goal.  Otherwise, you begin your next journey with a less energy available to help you reach the next goal.

I know, narrowing our efforts is hard.  We all want to reach our goals as quickly as possible!  Remember the story about the tortoise and the hare?tortoisegoingdown

Be consistent and strategically plan knowing each step you take is getting you closer to your goal.  Be sure to nurture and replenish your energy.  Embrace the process because when you do, you will get there faster and actually enjoy the journey.

I am keeping it simple and learning how to take time to re-energize.  Here are some questions to help you figure this all out, courtesy of Valerie Burton:

  • What is your most important goal right now?
  • What other goals and activities are depleting the personal resources (discipline, time and mental energy) you need in order to reach your goal?
  • What adjustments are you able and willing to make to give you more personal resources to reach the goal?

Share your vision board with us.  Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!

Smash Book

WOW!  Week 1 of the NEW Thirty One year DONE.  I have set my goals for the upcoming year and as I entered my office this AM, Doubtful Debbie made a visit.  She seems to stop by unannounced when I least expect it, usually when I am short on parties for the upcoming month.  Yes, I am thinking about July in the beginning of June.  With National Conference in July and the 4th weekend – party time is limited AND I hate for my hostesses and customers to miss out on AMAZING specials.

I know what does all of that have to do with “smash books”, right?  The truth is – I wasn’t sure either.  I get daily “Notes from Your Girl” and this one made me STOP and think!  I know you are probably thinking – everything does!  But this one made me more curious than anything.

Spend some time this week cutting out pictures from magazines and glue them into a binder for the creation of a dream journal Hope. When something speaks to you just cut and glue, don’t question…this is your soul directing you toward what you love.

See, I have done vision boards as most do who are in direct sales.  We are encouraged to place our dreams or long term goals on a board so that we can look at them every day.  This motivates us to keep moving forward on those days when Doubtful Debbie or Negative Nellie stops by for a visit.

Lately when I have been looking through magazines, I have been drawn to certain pictures.  Sort of those whispers that say, “wouldn’t that be fun” or “I would love to do that some day” or “When things are (perfect), I will do this”.  Okay, I am sure that I am not the only one that hears these things because I have heard many fellow women in business talk about these books.  I just never had one nor did I think I needed one.  I actually have a small pile of pictures and words that I have been inspired to cut out and save.  They are sitting in a pile on my shelf – waiting.  Waiting for what?  I am not sure.  It is sort of like those family items that you save but are packed away in a box where no one will see them.  I mean why keep them if no one is going to see them.  I am starting to feel the same way about these pictures and words.  They inspired me at the moment so I am sure that God has a purpose for them in my life.  I don’t think he meant for them to be in a pile on my shelf either.

So, I am on a mission to buy a smash book – I saw small ones at Walmart.  Those inspiring pictures and words are going in them.  They will be a place for me to go to when Negative Nellie or Doubtful Debbie come to visit.  The book is small enough that I will be able to carry with me (yes, my bag is that big).

Do you have a smash book or something more than a vision board to keep you focused?  What is your anchor?  Share your thoughts with us…

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!