Never Forget

  It is Monday morning and we should be heading to Royal Carribean’s Majesty of the Sea for 5 glorious days of my pink bubble. Irma has had other plans and I am home reflecting on so many things…

It is a morning filled with lots of emotion…as a nation, we honor those who were lost on 9-11.  We continue to struggle with the evil which plaques our nation.  We mourn for those lost and honor those whose lives have forever been changed.   This day is one of few memories which I can clearly remember…  I remember as if it were yesterday.  I was working at Mia’s Christmas Shop in Ocean City, NJ.  We had just opened when I was called into the office by Charlie, the owner, who had the television on showing the attacks.  Charlie immediately started to collect money for those whose lives would be changed as a result of this horrific event.  I got to share the events of the morning with many people who were on vacation and CLUELESS about what was happening.  Those days were filled with words like: Hero, Compassion, Love, Kindness, and Bravery.

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September 11th took on a new meaning in 2011 when Heaven gained another Weston angel – Edythe, my aunt, my friend  and my mom’s middle sister.  Growing up, I spent ALOT of time with Edythe (and Elsie). When I was younger, they were my babysitters.  As the years went on, they were a BIG part of my support system.  Edythe (along with the rest of my family) helped to raise Belinda. As Belinda grew up, lives changed – the world moved a little faster and we lost touch with the exception of holidays.

The words describing those involved in the September 11th attacks and recovery efforts could now relate to Edythe: Hero, Compassion, Love, Kindness, and Bravery.

Life seems to be full of moments which ask us to let go when we long to hold on.  I don’t know what you face right now, what season of life you’re in, but my prayer for you is simple and from the heart. May you know the comfort and strength of the One whose love will never fail you, and whose mercies are new every single morning!

As we reflect on this day, hug the ones you love, forgive the ones who you believe have done you wrong and enjoy the moment with those you love.

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!

 

An Unhealthy Sense of Responsibility

 Raise your hand if this is you…………. Do you feel like you have to deal with things, even things you have no control over?  Do you take blame for things even if you were not responsible?  Do you act independently when making decisions, even if you don’t have the “authority”?
Many would say those who “take responsibility” make successful leader but what happens why you take ownership of not just your tasks but everyone else’s?  There is actually such a thing as over-responsibility.  We know if you are managing people, a workload, or a household, not much gets done if you don’t take responsibility on a daily basis.   BUT when you become “overly responsible”, you could be sabotaging your schedule, your effectiveness, and the people around you.
As I wrap up things before heading out “super early” tomorrow morning for a week of my “pink bubble” with my daughter…. I am feeling overly responsible.  I am stressing and all of this stress is for things I have no control over!  I can set things up but the rest is in God’s hands and the hands of others.

If you stress whether people in your life will hold up their end of a task, so you step in to take on tasks, you are being over-responsible. Yup, I have been known to do this…

Do you suffer from any of these signs of over-responsibility?

1. You behave as though everything and everyone depends on you.

I’m not sure if I developed this trait as a child during a time of family struggles or if it came years later during my days of addiction BUT this is me.  Pride gets the best of me sometimes.  We are we are the one with all the answers, fixing every problem. Do you define yourself by this ability?

2. You answer questions for other people, instead of letting them answer for themselves.

If this is you, be honest with yourself. Why do you do it? If you stopped, what would happen? Whatever your answer, it’s the issue it’s time to address.  Thankfully, this is something I have already addressed in myself.  I love hearing from others.

3. You consistently remind the people in your life of their own responsibilities because they aren’t responsible enough to remember on their own.

OUCH!  There is a difference between harassment and gentle reminders of daily responsibilities.  Do you keep up with your schedule – and everyone else’s. I have a hard enough time lately keeping up with my own due to health struggles so others have stopped relying on me so much.  Have others in your life stopped taking responsibility for their schedule because they rely on you?  Do you hear more often than not “You never told me,” “I didn’t know,” or “Just tell me what you need me to do”?  Time for them to take responsibility for their own life!

4. You consistently do for others what they can do for themselves.

Yup, this is me.  The proverbial people pleaser!  Instead of reminders, do you just do it?  Are you stressed because of it? Have people stopped asking for your help because they just want help? Lending a helping hand is wonderful but when you take on responsibilities which aren’t yours; you stunt the growth of others not allowing them to live up to their potential. So instead of helping, you’re doing just the opposite.

5. You avoid confronting people as much as possible.

I am not good with confrontation (remember I am a people pleaser!)  So when you have to get others to change their behavior, it can mean strained conversations. Do you refuse to confront issues? If so, you might be allowing others to be irresponsible just to avoid having a conversation about boundaries.

6. You are resentful people feel entitled to your generosity.

You’ve been over-responsible for so long people in your life have come to expect it. You’ve trained them to rely on you for things which should not be your responsibility. And deep down, you now resent it. This is the sign which indicates the problem has been going on far too long.

So, here is my challenge:  Use the signs to identify when and who you are “overly-responsible”.  Consider both your personal, community and professional life.  Be honest with yourself.  What steps are you going to take to share the responsibility?

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!

Fall is Around the Corner

Fall is here at Thirty One.  Yes, the new catalog started last month BUT since we are headed into Labor Day weekend, doesn’t it mean it is officially fall.   I hear the GROANS from kids and cheers from moms & dads.

Now it is time to switch gears and start thinking about all things fall – tailgating, football, Halloween, Thanksgiving and yes, Christmas.  It is an early start to the gift giving season and Thirty One has a solution for all of your gift giving needs!

#1 Have you every thought about being a part of Thirty One?

Want to have debt-free holiday?  How about some girl time after playing mom taxi?  OR do you want to solve your holiday gift giving with awesome discounts on amazing products?

   

For just $99, you can pick either of these AMAZING kits.  It is packed with some of this seasons top sellers – the Retro Metro Bag (my favorite) and the large utility tote which has been a company top seller since it was introduced!

PLUS, during your first 4 months of being a consultant you get to earn MORE!  In addition to your 25% commission, when you reach $500 in sales every 30 days, you will receive a 25% credit in your back office to help you grow your business.  Have more than $500 in sales, there is no limit to the credit!  How cool is that!  Here is what it looks like:

#2Be a Hostess with the Mostess!

Not interested in joining our pink bubble – how about hosting your own party?  Did you know for just $200 in orders, YOU can have a qualified party.  You will get $25 in FREE product, 1 half price item and 1 hostess exclusive.  Did you know it is only takes 6 orders of $35 to have a qualified party? I offer home, catalog/online, on the go and Facebook parties. Fundraising opportunities are also available!  Which one will fit into YOUR busy schedule?

In addition to the AMAZING Hostess benefits offered,  in September a Hostess with a $600 party or more can pick ANYTHING in the catalog for FREE! Yes, ANYTHING!  Working together, we can get your party to $600 since it is the company average for a party!

#3 – Don’t want to join, and not interested in being a hostess…..

How about getting a jump on your holiday shopping with TWO offers:

FIRST, you can shop this month’s customer special which is the Zip Top Organizing Tote or the Super Swap It Pocket for $10 each.  You can pick your choice of one for each multiple of $35 you spend!

TWO, you can send me your holiday wish list and we can put you on the budget plan for 4 months with everything being delivered to you in plenty of time for your gift giving events. Join my Holiday Gift Club. For more details, fill out the form below:

 

Which one will you pick??

Want a chance to earn FREE stuff, get special deals and more….

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!

Summer Kick Off Party

A new month and LOTS of newness in Thirty One.  I am so blessed to be part of a company which helps us reach new heights every month and this month is NO exception.

I am so excited to see not only Flip Flops come back but also some of our favorite retired products with a fresh new look….

As a result of my AMAZING customers, I again have the opportunity to present “Promising Picks” which is how products are tested to be featured in future catalogs.  The only way to order Promising Picks is through a party….. Hmm?  Maybe it is time for a 31 minute Facebook Party or a catalog party or a trunk party or a home party?

My new Facebook parties have me LIVE with you and your friends for 31 minutes highlighting YOUR top 10 favorite products. A personal shopper coming right into your home. I will go live at the designated time for some fun and games then we close your party within 48 hours of the LIVE event.  Easy peasy, right? No fuss. No mess.

The best part is all of the NEW items in April at Thirty One

#1 – April Customer Special……  It is the perfect time to order for Mother and Father’s Day, graduation, weddings, birthdays  or maybe just a chance to get your home organized.

   

#2 – NEW Personalization Options: 

#3 –  The starfish icon is so cute on our pillows and make a great gift.  Do you love the Midway Hobo purse but wished it could be personalized?  Now it can…. you can make it your own!

 

 

 

 

 

#4 – April’s Hostess Special may cinch the deal for you…. This set can be yours for $30 with a $600 party.  It includes a Zip Top Organizing Tote, a Fold n File and a Rubie Mini.  Believe me it is not hard to get to $600 in sales…. an average Facebook party is $500 and believe me YOU are not average.  Look at what you can get at each party level…..

#5 – Can you thing better than being a hostess in April? Maybe it is starting your own business with one of our Spring Enrollment kits.  Join our Thirty One family with our Summer Essential Enrollment Kit for just $50!  You get to pick which set AND you get to pick your own personalization.  Just getting your tax refund back?  What better way to make your money work for you then starting your own business…

Not only do you get paid to party BUT you will also have the chance to get up to 4 of these amazing kits for FREE each month for the first four months.

So, who is ready to join in the fun?

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!

Give the Gift of Hope

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I can’t believe it has been almost six years since I started my journey with Thirty One with a goal to help others. Sometimes it is a fundraising project, or a donation to an event or giving to those who were in need.  It doesn’t matter whether it is for an individual, a group, a team or if we were just part of making a difference…. I always want to help.  Over the years, we have been able to make a difference in the lives of many….

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This was our very first #31gives project for the kids who were in the hospital over Easter.  There are 6 beds at Ocean Medical and each child received one of these pouches. It was so humbling when we were one of the featured pictures in Thirty One’s Virtuous Women magazine.

No, I am not telling you all of this to toot my own horn. I NEVER do any of these projects without the help of my AMAZING customers, hostesses, family and friends. Individuals who believe in the cause, or just want to help. Okay, can you guess where this is leading…. YOU GOT IT!

I am blessed to know several people who are on dialysis, some who have received transplants while others still are waiting. Their daily struggles have taught me to appreciate my life so much – the good, the bad and the ugly. They go through their days with faith looking at each day as a blessing, appreciating all they have been given.

Over the last two years I have done Chemo Comfort Bags bringing smiles to those who are fighting cancer. I was asked by a friend to help those who are struggling with dialysis because her hubby is one of them. Silly me, I thought dialysis patients received their treatment in the same spot as the chemo patients so they would also be treated to the donated bags – sadly it is not the case. Here is her plea for help….

Please help! Kidney disease is horrible. It be wonderful for the patients to have a care bag to help comfort them during their dialysis appointments. These appointments can last 3 hours up to 4 & 1/2- 5 hours. That’s a long time to be sitting in a chair.

Your $30 sponsorship will pay for the actual bag and I will use 100% of my commission to fill them with a variety of things like a blanket, notepad, pen, bottle of water, lotion, warm socks, chap stick and crossword puzzle book. Donations will be distributed at the local dialysis center to bring a smile to the face of those who are fighting this dreadful disease.

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Won’t you help me bring a smile to the face of those who are struggling during dialysis?

You can sponsor a bag in memory of someone, in honor of someone or just anonymously. Payments can be made via check or through Paypal at hopesgiftcloset@@comcast.net as a friend/family.  I can also accept credit card payments directly.

Won’t you help to make a difference today?

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!